One night stand or....?

LegacyUser

Hi Guys,

I went on a second date with a guy last Saturday night and I slept with him.
It was good fun and I think we both enjoyed it.

On Sunday morning we woke at about 10am and he said I better go. We cuddled for a bit then he kissed me and left. I stayed on sleeping cause we'd had a late enough night.

So my question is, if he liked me and wanted to see me again do you think he'd have stuck around a while longer?

To be really honest I don't mind either way. I like him but not a huge amount and if i don't hear from him again I'm fine with that!

It was only our second date so not like I knew him long enough to upset by this.
I had known him for a few week prior to sleeping with him though.

What do you reckon guys?
be honest cause I won't get hurt!

Just to note we briefly texted the next day just saying that was a nice night...

Cheers!

Katgurl

No way to know for sure, he mightn't have felt comfortable or he mightve been busy that day. He might not have decided if he wants see you again. Wait and see.

Do you want to see him again?

wirelessdude01

who sent the last text?

LegacyUser

wirelessdude01 wrote: »

who sent the last text?

I did. I texted saying thanks for a fun night and he replied...cool, I had a good night too and I said great, I'm looking forward to a day of doing nothing! He didn't reply then.

I was glad he left being honest cause I was tired and I don't know him well enough to have him hanging about for the day.

I'm just not sure what to think. He's not much of a texter so far tbh.

I guess I'll just see. I'm not gonna dwell on it. It was fun but I really don't care either way.
Least I got laid:)

Penny Dreadful

gonebabygone wrote: »

Hi Guys,

I went on a second date with a guy last Saturday night and I slept with him.
It was good fun and I think we both enjoyed it.

On Sunday morning we woke at about 10am and he said I better go. We cuddled for a bit then he kissed me and left. I stayed on sleeping cause we'd had a late enough night.

So my question is, if he liked me and wanted to see me again do you think he'd have stuck around a while longer?

To be really honest I don't mind either way. I like him but not a huge amount and if i don't hear from him again I'm fine with that!

It was only our second date so not like I knew him long enough to upset by this.
I had known him for a few week prior to sleeping with him though.

What do you reckon guys?
be honest cause I won't get hurt!

Just to note we briefly texted the next day just saying that was a nice night...

Cheers!

First off I think you do like him, if you didn't you wouldn't be posting here. Secondly I'm sorry to say I don't think you'll hear from him again.
I'm not saying that to be mean but from my own experience. This time last year I got together with a guy that I fancied and nothing more, we slept together and he was really nice to me the next day but I was the one to get in touch with him afterward. In the end we did have a date and slept together again but he wasn't really interested and while in my heart and soul I knew this, I still wondered if he liked me, if I'd hear from him again, etc etc. He met someone else over the Christmas holidays that he was mad about. During the summer I met another guy and have to say the difference between someone who wants to see you again and someone who can't be bothered is so obvious the blind could see.

Good luck OP, I hope you're not too disappointed in this guy.:)

LegacyUser

Hmm.. ok a bit more background, were you both out for drinks that night and were both fairly well on drinks wise?

It happens that people wake up a lot more sober and with the mood of the night gone they suddenly realise "Omg, what am i doing here!?"

So i am sorry to say i dont think you will hear from this guy again....

.. and yes if he was more into you he would have hung around a bit longer... at least for round 2 anyways :-)

Jenneke87

Okay, if you don't particularly like the guy, and if he doesn't bother replying to your text, then why worry whether this was a one night stand or not? You could, if you really wanna find out, sent him another text and if he doesn't reply, you have your answer.

LegacyUser

the way i see this is, alot of men will "date" till they get what they want and leave. If both paties are only after one thing i.e sex, why bother with the messing around? I personally couldnt dupe a woman into that, knowing I had no interest in her. I know one girl this has happened to recently and Iv got to say, I look at her differently now.

Wompa1

Sorry to say but it might have been too soon to give it up. I'd say he may have hit it and quit it. Let us know how things go anyway. Best of luck

BraziliaNZ

Wompa1 wrote: »

Sorry to say but it might have been too soon to give it up. I'd say he may have hit it and quit it. Let us know how things go anyway. Best of luck

"Too soon to give it up". Who are you Mary Whitehouse or something? As she said, at least she got laid!

whysomoody

Play it by year...

booboo88

gonebabygone wrote: »

I did. I texted saying thanks for a fun night and he replied...cool, I had a good night too and I said great, I'm looking forward to a day of doing nothing! He didn't reply then.

I was glad he left being honest cause I was tired and I don't know him well enough to have him hanging about for the day.

I'm just not sure what to think. He's not much of a texter so far tbh.

I guess I'll just see. I'm not gonna dwell on it. It was fun but I really don't care either way.
Least I got laid:)

If it didnt bother you either way, ho come your posting on here about same?

Mr.Plough

sounds like he's not interested in anything serious tbh

LegacyUser

booboo88 wrote: »

If it didnt bother you either way, ho come your posting on here about same?

Eehhh for general opinions!! I thought that's what this board is for, no??

Ha ha...I really don't care. It was nice but it's no big deal to me at all.
Like I said I got laid:)

Also, for teh record, he texted me last night!
(I still don't care and didn't even reply)

Girls can want no strings s*x too ya know!!!

curlzy

booboo88 wrote: »

If it didnt bother you either way, ho come your posting on here about same?

Because she wanted to get other people's opinions.

HEy OP,
People like to paint a girl as a slut and a guy as a hero for "giving it up":rolleyes: Fortunately you seem to be above that kind of bull**** 1950's retarded thinking so I won't give you a pep talk but I will say sure give him a text, if he replies then yay if he doesn't sure it's not the end of the world.

Merry Christmas.:)

LegacyUser

curlzy wrote: »

Because she wanted to get other people's opinions.

HEy OP,
People like to paint a girl as a slut and a guy as a hero for "giving it up":rolleyes: Fortunately you seem to be above that kind of bull**** 1950's retarded thinking so I won't give you a pep talk but I will say sure give him a text, if he replies then yay if he doesn't sure it's not the end of the world.

Merry Christmas.:)

Thanks Curlzy:)
Your post made me smile
Happy Christmas to you too!

Miss Fluff

gonebabygone wrote: »

Eehhh for general opinions!! I thought that's what this board is for, no??

Ha ha...I really don't care. It was nice but it's no big deal to me at all.
Like I said I got laid:)

Also, for teh record, he texted me last night!
(I still don't care and didn't even reply)

Girls can want no strings s*x too ya know!!!

Tbh it sounds like a case of the lady doth protest too much. I think it sounds like you do like him. You have now said countless times that you really don't care either way So if he asks you out on another date, and you're only after no strings sex, I take it you'll say no to the date and tell him you're only looking for a fvck buddy. Is that the case?

LegacyUser

Miss Fluff wrote: »

Tbh it sounds like a case of the lady doth protest too much. I think it sounds like you do like him. You have now said countless times that you really don't care either way So if he asks you out on another date, and you're only after no strings sex, I take it you'll say no to the date and tell him you're only looking for a fvck buddy. Is that the case?

hmmm...interesting. I'm genuinely not sure. I doubt I'd be that blunt about it but I'd tell him that I just want to take it easy and go with the flow.

I'm a dating novice being honest. I was in a relationship for the last 8 years but we broke up so I'm new to all this!!

I just hope it works out for me either way.

New to baords too but I gotta say I love it! (my boss however may not!)

killerking

gonebabygone wrote: »

Hi Guys,

I went on a second date with a guy last Saturday night and I slept with him.
It was good fun and I think we both enjoyed it.

On Sunday morning we woke at about 10am and he said I better go. We cuddled for a bit then he kissed me and left. I stayed on sleeping cause we'd had a late enough night.

So my question is, if he liked me and wanted to see me again do you think he'd have stuck around a while longer?

To be really honest I don't mind either way. I like him but not a huge amount and if i don't hear from him again I'm fine with that!

It was only our second date so not like I knew him long enough to upset by this.
I had known him for a few week prior to sleeping with him though.

What do you reckon guys?
be honest cause I won't get hurt!

Just to note we briefly texted the next day just saying that was a nice night...

Cheers!

If you like him call him and meet up.
Talk to him, tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels.
Your problem is you are scared of being hurt.
Sorry but life is all about getting hurt. Deal with it doll.

LegacyUser

He texted me on wednesday asking how I was and am I looking forward to Christmas.
I replied saying yes etc.

I woke up yesterday and saw a missed call from him at about 10.30 so I texted him in the afternoon saying sorry I missed your call and happy christmas, have a good one.

He didn't reply.

I don't get guys sometimes!!!

I don't get why he bothered texting during the week or why he was calling me if he's not interested. I'm actually pretty pissed off about it, not because I'm so into him, because it's plain rude to not reply when someone wishes you a happy christmas!

F*ck it though. New year is around the corner and I'm just hoping it's a good one man-wise!

LegacyUser

OP, what do you mean 'a good one man-wise' for next year?

be honest to yourself what you want from men, a good sex or something more? or both or what? be brave to chase what you want.

if i was the guy in question, either i am playing game with you or i am confused by you.

ask yourself what do you want from relationships with men at this moment, this month. and also from this guy.

if you want more serious, have a mature talk with him. either have a go for something a little bit more meaningful (get laid and also get the emotion aspects etc) or have another good laid.

good luck.

finbarrk

gonebabygone wrote: »

He texted me on wednesday asking how I was and am I looking forward to Christmas.
I replied saying yes etc.

I woke up yesterday and saw a missed call from him at about 10.30 so I texted him in the afternoon saying sorry I missed your call and happy christmas, have a good one.

He didn't reply.

I don't get guys sometimes!!!

I don't get why he bothered texting during the week or why he was calling me if he's not interested. I'm actually pretty pissed off about it, not because I'm so into him, because it's plain rude to not reply when someone wishes you a happy christmas!

F*ck it though. New year is around the corner and I'm just hoping it's a good one man-wise!

You haven't done anything wrong so far. Text him tomorrow and ask him how his Christmas day went. You could also mention that you are bored maybe and see will he pick up on that.
Good luck, hope it works out for you.

booboo88

gonebabygone wrote: »

Eehhh for general opinions!! I thought that's what this board is for, no??

Ha ha...I really don't care. It was nice but it's no big deal to me at all.
Like I said I got laid:)

Also, for teh record, he texted me last night!
(I still don't care and didn't even reply)

Girls can want no strings s*x too ya know!!!

For someone who doesnt really care, and you got laid and all. Why does it bother you if he does or doesnt text you?
if you didnt want anymore than a bit of slap and tickle, wats the problem?

LegacyUser

booboo88 wrote: »

For someone who doesnt really care, and you got laid and all. Why does it bother you if he does or doesnt text you?
if you didnt want anymore than a bit of slap and tickle, wats the problem?

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Maybe if you read the rest of my posts you'd understand.
I'm not explaining myself again for people who can't even read the thread properly.

Why bother replying with such a useless post?

Ickle Magoo

If you are going to be rude to other posters who are taking the time and effort to reply to the issue you posted publicly for comment, this thread will be locked.

Many thanks

calibelle

Op it does sound like you don't know what you want. On one hand your saying your happy to have just had sex and on the other hand you don't understand why he didn't reply to you.
In all honesty it's very early days and you don't know what's going on in his life and lots of people forget to reply to texts when they're busy. I think you need to step back a bit and put him out of your mind- 2 datesdont mean an awful lot.
There's nothing wrong with just wanting sex but also silly to pretend your happy with just that if you actually want more. Maybe decide what you want rather than worrying about what he thinks.

LegacyUser

To be fair, I know how you feel.. I had a 1 night stand 2 weeks ago and then tried to contact him, by apologising and saying I never usually sleep with guys that easily. I think I made myself look worse because he never replied.. If you are like me then you want a relationship, you don't really want JUST sex but you settled for that because you were drunk and didn't expect to end up fancying him?

nimrodsson

gonebabygone wrote: »

He texted me on Wednesday asking how I was and am I looking forward to Christmas.
I replied saying yes etc.

I woke up yesterday and saw a missed call from him at about 10.30 so I texted him in the afternoon saying sorry I missed your call and happy Christmas, have a good one.

He didn't reply.

I don't get guys sometimes!!!

I don't get why he bothered texting during the week or why he was calling me if he's not interested. I'm actually pretty pissed off about it, not because I'm so into him, because it's plain rude to not reply when someone wishes you a happy christmas!

F*ck it though. New year is around the corner and I'm just hoping it's a good one man-wise!

If he rang, he's interested.

On the other hand, while the difference is subtle - if i rang a girl, and she saw the missed call, and merely replied by text, with a generic happy christmas line (with no room for follow up), i'd conclude she wasn't interested.

There is a difference between texting and calling, and if a call wasn't reciprocated - or if it was reciprocated in a lesser way (by text) then i wouldn't be too eager to follow it up again... He could feel like that too. Role reverse for a second.

You: Call phone, no answer
Him: By text - 'saw your call, Happy Christmas, have a good one.l
You: By thought - won't be calling him again!