Suspect Partner Cheated, 7 months pregnant

LegacyUser

I've always been able to rely on my intuition but I am currently 7 months pregnant and I'm not sure if it's my intuition or crazy hormones that is making suspect this.

I've been with my partner for 4 years, living together for almost 2 now and expecting a baby in the new year.

My partner had a night out with some friends back in the town he is from at the weekend and even thought I don't have alot to go on I've a feeling that something happened. I've always trusted him 100% and he has never given me any reason not to doubt him before (not that there is much reason now I know).

It started on sat morning(morning after) when he text me, I was out shopping and didn't want to be trying to write a text so I just called him back, it was within 30 seconds of receiving the text yet he didn't pick up. I thought this was strange and tried again but no answer. He returned the call about half an hour later and said he'd been in the shower.

When he got back later on he was very distant, texting a bit on his phone but seemed to have it on silent which again is very unusual. I'd been telling myself that he was probably tired and hungover and texting his friends to see how the heads were etc. But it just wasn't sitting right with me and when he went for a shower lst night I checked his phone, any recent messages had been deleted but when I looked at his call register there was a missed call from his mother a couple of minutes before the missed calls from me on saturday. He was supposed to have stayed at his mothers house that night so why would she be calling him.

Now I don't know what to do. Do I question him on it? Will it hurt our relationship if he knows I thought this of him? Or worse will my suspicions be correct?

At 7 months pregnant would I just be safer to just stick my head in the sand and forget about this. I don't want to bring our baby into a broken relationship.

I really don't know what to do and would appreciate any opinions or some perspective.

Katgurl

ok REALLY there is nothing there that would suggest foul play. i've reread it a few times - he could have easily texted & walked straight out of room to the shower / his mother might have been phoning to make sure he had a key / check did he want anythign in the shop / he might have been using HER phone to find his phone.

So all you have are your instincts. Usually i would say listen to them but the fact that you're 7 months pregnant might be throwing these off.

Is there anything else in his behaviour which is giving you cause to worry?

Bottle_of_Smoke

You'll have say why you checked his phone, him taking 30 min to call you back isn't a valid reason. You'll look like a nut if you pull him up on staying in his mums house and it turns out he just used her mobile to find his.

Weighing up the risk benefit analysis of him knowing you checked his phone and chances he actually cheated based on the evidence presented I'd suggest you say nothing.

greenprincess

I wouldnt say anything, it was probably nothing. But I know its really easy for your imagination to run wild!

Good luck with the baby

helimachoptor

Honestly if i stay in my mams, she'll often ring then to see if i got home or ok, or ask me to ring when i get home. Mothers are worry warts. tbh it doesnt sound like he's up to anything.

Zen65

confusedandupset wrote: »

He was supposed to have stayed at his mothers house that night so why would she be calling him.

I'm just taking a guess here, but....

His mother did not phone him. As he was leaving her house that morning he realised that he didn't have his phone with him, he looked around for it, didn't find it, partly because he was slightly hung over, so he picked up her phone and dialled his own number.

Then he found his phone.

Be at peace,

Z

Neyite

Zen65 wrote: »

he picked up her phone and dialled his own number.
Then he found his phone.

This would be my bet too - if he was supposed to be staying with her and didnt, there would be a lot more missed calls on that phone. (assuming his mother would be anything like mine)

There could be lots of reasons for his silence - cranky, hungover, and if recent texts were deleted - i do this when my phone tells me the memory is full - then i get lazy and stop once i have deleted 7-8.

curlzy

Hey OP,

It really sounds like your hormones are making you a bit paro. Just wondering if you have any friends that are in the group that went out, you could ask them about it maybe? Either way try not to worry, I'm sure it's nothing and you don't want to spend your christmas worrying and upset. Or if you have a very good strong relationship with him just ask him maybe?