Confused

LegacyUser

Hey, alright long story short...I started liking this girl few months back, never had so much in common with someone before and really thought she was special. Last week i drunk text her and asked her has she any feelings towards me at all. She said she did really like me but she thinks im too good for her and i shouldnt be waiting around for her. She then kept mentioning not wanting a relationship because she has got hurt before. My problem is she said the typical we should just be friends and not ruin anything.

I have only talked to her once since and it wasnt too awkward but still not the greatest conversation we ever had. Im just thinking will things ever be the same or should I risk it all and go for it with her. We wont be speaking for a few weeks because i am going abroad for work for 6 weeks in a weeks time so I think i should say to her when I come back we should give it a shot just in case things never be the same again.

Im just wondering why does she say she really likes me and thinks Im too good for her even though she knows I want her?

LegacyUser

Youve said yourself what she said sounds like the usual 'lets just be friends' speech. I think shes made her position clear, you cant try to go out with someone who has no interest in going out with you. As for it being a bit awkward when you spoke after the text, thats understandable. My advice would be go away on your holiday and you (or her) might feel differently by the time your back.

marglin

wel in a very similiar situation, have fancied this girl for ages, we've scored once so i know she's attracted to me bt then she said those dreaded words 'lets just be friends' and 'its getting a bit awkward'

wish i could give you some proper proven advice bt what ppl have told me and what i think is the best course of action is distance, this sounds perfect for you as you're goin away

id say if you keep minimal contact you'll see 1 of 2 things happening when you come back...
1. she's now mad about you and the rest writes itself
2. nothing's changed and you now know for certain, you can move on

mate im in exactly the same boat so this is what im goin to try, it makes sense even if one of those outcomes is too painful to think about( right now i feel like someone's kicked me in the stomach, all the time) but all il say is good luck to you

dsmythy

It seems she might simply not fancy you and is coming up with every cliche to let you down in a nice way.

Perhaps she has self-esteem issues and or happy being single at the moment. Perhaps she doesn't want a possible relationship right now and is busy seeing the "bad guys" right now.

Either way it is out now your feelings for her and how she reacts to it should show you her thoughts on you.

mrpink6789

She doesnt like you and wanted to let you down easy or she does like you but has her eye on someone else who she feels is better then you and wants to wait for them.
Or she does like you but wants you to put a bit more effort in then drunk text her!

Dude dont drunk text, women generally hate it. Ring her up and ask her out. if she says no at least you will have 6 weeks before you see/talk to her again to forget about her.

Also if you dont do something you are going to be abroad for 6 weeks thinking about her and that will just make things worse for you.

Kimia

Whatnext152 wrote: »

Hey, alright long story short...I started liking this girl few months back, never had so much in common with someone before and really thought she was special. Last week i drunk text her and asked her has she any feelings towards me at all. She said she did really like me but she thinks im too good for her and i shouldnt be waiting around for her. She then kept mentioning not wanting a relationship because she has got hurt before. My problem is she said the typical we should just be friends and not ruin anything.

I have only talked to her once since and it wasnt too awkward but still not the greatest conversation we ever had. Im just thinking will things ever be the same or should I risk it all and go for it with her. We wont be speaking for a few weeks because i am going abroad for work for 6 weeks in a weeks time so I think i should say to her when I come back we should give it a shot just in case things never be the same again.

Im just wondering why does she say she really likes me and thinks Im too good for her even though she knows I want her?

Op, she's already told you she's not interested. Leave it.