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Last Chane with Girl of My Dreams?

  • 19-12-2010 10:41pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey guys, going unreg for this one.

    Theres this girl I had a HUGE crush on since I was about 17 (I'm 24 now).
    She knew but she didnt feel the same way.

    This intense infatuation lasted for about 4 years.
    During this time I was with a number of girls but decided to hang on to my virginity,
    hoping my first time would be with her.

    Just as I was starting to forget her 3 years ago, we met one night and kissed.
    She was drunk, lonely and desperate and told me how she regretted rejecting me
    in the past.
    The next day she texted me saying it was a "horrible mistake"

    This crushed me and I have spent the past few years slowly but successfully getting over her, again.

    In the past few months though she has been quite active on my facebook page: liking/commenting on every post/status update I post.

    This has brought the old feelings back and I'm beginning to think she may have finally seen the light, if you know what I mean.

    We only ever see each other over Christma and I'm getting excited as I think this year it may actually happen.

    I am worried though that it will be a repeat of 3 years ago and I'll be led on and rejected and end up back in the Heartbreak Hotel.

    Just wondering does anyone have any advice:
    Should I give it one last shot
    or
    Should I ignore, avoid and forget about her forever?


Comments

  • #2
    dudara
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,518 ✭✭✭✭dudara


    I think that you could be leading yourself on for more heartbreak - but who knows?

    Ask her straight out if she has feelings for you. This is the only way to know for certain. Stop the messing around with Facebook etc, these are no substitutes for actual face-to-face conversation.

    By asking her straight out, you'll get an answer. It may or may not be the one you want to hear, but you'll know.


  • #3
    Zen65
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,630 ✭✭✭Zen65


    Zeus Reduced wrote: »
    This has brought the old feelings back and I'm beginning to think she may have finally seen the light, if you know what I mean.

    She saw the light years ago, it's you who keeps blinding yourself.
    Zeus Reduced wrote: »
    Should I give it one last shot
    or
    Should I ignore, avoid and forget about her forever?

    Ignore, avoid and forget about her. Sorry Op but you are not the type of person who can take these risks and recover quickly.


    Be at peace,

    Z


  • #4
    JonathanAnon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,718 ✭✭✭✭JonathanAnon


    She sounds like a selfish headwrecker... She used you when you were convenient and there was nothing better on offer, and then uses the cowardly "it's was a mistake" line then next day... (and using the word "horrible" was a bit over the top, tbh)...

    I wouldnt bother pursuing her... just write it off and try to cut her out your life.. Give youself a chance to move on.. I'm not sure having her on your Facebook (and thus keeping her in your mind/life) is such a good idea..


  • #5
    prickleberry
    Closed Accounts Posts: 27 ✭prickleberry


    Let me just say i'm on the exact same position as you, well very close. Met this girl in leaving cert who liked me but i wasn't really in the place for anything at the time. I then fell in love with this girl after becoming best friends and i wanted a relationship, she didn't. Then sometimes now she would kiss me and say i'm basically her boyfriend but just not including the commitment part. I'm so confused, I'm in love with this girl, all the feelings have come flooding back just like you. I would say to maybe ask her subtly if she's ever liked you and if she likes you now, and what things would be like if you were a couple, jokingly but you really want to plant an image in her mind to see how she responds. If all else fails ask her straight out, It's really hard to do i know, but you'll be torturing yourself for ever like me if you don't. You obviously don't want to say anything as you're expecting to get an answer you don't want to get. Be strong if it doesn't work in your favor and walk away. And for the love of god quit over thinking ever little detail, i did it to, but STOP!!! you'll drive yourself mad.


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