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Lonely/ not much social life now that I'm finished college

  • 19-12-2010 7:59pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi folks. This isn't a big problem compared to some on here, but it's getting me down so I thought I'd see if anyone had any advice. I've recently moved on from third level to fourth level education. I really enjoyed college and I'm finding my current course very unsocial and lonely. People's attitude seems to be just to come in to the lectures, get what they need and leave. I centred my social life around college and I'm feeling quite adrift now that's gone. Many of my old friends have moved off now and the group is broken up. Does anyone have any advice on how to still have fun/ a decent social life? Thanks :)


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  • #2
    smiles302
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    Have you tried meetup.com? It's like societies for grown ups. As mature as that makes me sound.

    Have you moved city since college yeah? Offer to visit old friends at the weekend? Keep in touch over facebook =)


  • #3
    LegacyUser
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    I haven't tried meetup.com - I suppose I've been thinking it would be too much like online dating, or that there wouldn't many people my age. For some reason I have the impression that it's mainly for people in their 30's and 40's. Maybe I should give it a go though...


  • #4
    smiles302
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    I wouldn't think of it like online dating, more like advertising the book club or cinema club etc.

    There's also Skeptics in the Pub if you are in Dublin or Cork. Not sure if this counts as spam or not but their website is http://skepticireland.com/

    Though I know post grads do come along to some societies and clubs in college, you could show up to the society equivalent of your degree course. You're bound to impress/be roped into giving a talk on whatever it is you do.


  • #5
    Sleepy
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    Could you not join the socs and clubs in your new college?


  • #6
    LegacyUser
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    Well, the college I'm in at the moment doesn't really have clubs/socs!


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    How old are you, OP?


  • #8
    Wompa1
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    Alster wrote: »
    Hi folks. This isn't a big problem compared to some on here, but it's getting me down so I thought I'd see if anyone had any advice. I've recently moved on from third level to fourth level education. I really enjoyed college and I'm finding my current course very unsocial and lonely. People's attitude seems to be just to come in to the lectures, get what they need and leave. I centred my social life around college and I'm feeling quite adrift now that's gone. Many of my old friends have moved off now and the group is broken up. Does anyone have any advice on how to still have fun/ a decent social life? Thanks :)

    Make new friends?? I'd like to think most people in your position would be more into putting the head down and trying to get a good mark. If you think it's bad now wait until you have to work!


  • #9
    [Deleted User]
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    OP - would you consider taking up classes? Say either dance classes, yoga, writing, or even attending a book club. Whichever county your from, check out the regional forums on here. I can only speak for Galway, but it does happen a lot that people hold meetings - whether it be bowling, drinking, reading or whatever else. I've met some great friends through this!


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