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  • 19-12-2010 7:08pm
    #1
    johnqpublic
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9 ✭


    Ok here it goes.....Ive been with my girlfriend for 2 1/2 years now, at first things were good but i feel we've drifted a bit the last year. we're not living together yet but i think she feels our relationship will be sorted if we move in together. i have my doubts. I dont know why, i just have this nagging doubt at the back of my mind that its not going to work out. i always hear people respond to the question 'how do you know you want to spend the rest of your life with this person?' with the answer 'when you know you know'. So i cant figure out why i dont feel like that. is it just a cold feet type feeling or should alarm bells be going off in my head to get out now before i hurt this girl any more (i really really dont want to hurt her).
    Then there's this girl at work, for some reason i feel drawn to her, cant explain it, i dont know her too well we've chit chatted, exchanged glances etc. she has a long term boyfriend, ive tried to ignore these feelings, dismissed them as simple lust but i cant, i think she has feelings for me, re-enforced by the way she acted around me on a work night out, i can read body language fairly well. But id never cheat on my girlfriend and i could never bring up the subject with the girl from work unless i was single and thought she was un-happy in her relationship.
    Any advice welcome...is it normal to fancy someone else or should this be the sign i need to realise my current girlfriend isnt the one for me


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  • #2
    johnqpublic
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9 ✭johnqpublic


    Anyone?


  • #3
    johnqpublic
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9 ✭johnqpublic


    Thanks for the reply 'OP' (stands for 'Other poster'?!?)
    I am 26, this is my first proper relationship. But not hers!
    I do love her, we just havn't been getting on too well lately so ive started to have doubts. She is an extremely nice person and has been hurt before so I just cant stand the thought of hurting her again.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    When you say, haven't been getting on, why? Is there a (fixable) reason? Is it because of the moving in issue?
    It's normal to connect with other people. I always find it's always when I'm in a relationship when I see all these possibilities/missed opportunities, however when I'm single it's like a desert!? Typical.
    Equally however, if you don't "know" after 2.5 years, maybe you'll never know. The hurt you cause by breaking up is going to come regardless, so better sooner rather than later, if you've any love for her at all, don't waste her time dawdling.


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