A weird thing happened...

LegacyUser

Hi guys,

Just wondering what you think of this or is it a common thing!

The other night in bed with my new boyfriend, doing the deed, he put his hands around my neck and to me, tried to choke me. Now it wasn't anything violent or strong. It's just that I totally paniced and pulled his hands away. He immediately said he was really sorry. No more was said about it and he has not tried it since. I think we were both a bit embarressed after to be honest, and we haven't mentioned it since. He's the most gentle sweet guy... so why try something like this?

Just wondering if anyone can shead some light on why a guy may do this?

Thanks.

skooterblue

it could be a kinky asphyxiation thing where you orgasm better when there is less air/blood going to the brain. I am not going to judge anyone but ...... I think this thread belongs in the sexuality forum where people who are into it can appreciate it more

Funky Kingston

Hey OP , I have heard of and experienced this before . Some people are into it and some are not , like everything else I suppose . The neck has lots of pressure points and apparently is very stimulating if you're into that kind of thing .

Bless him , if he is as sweet as you say he is then he obviously didn't mean any harm to you ...he should have talked to you about it first but it seems like he decided to do it in the heat of the moment and caught you by surprise.

Have a chat about it and get rid of the tension , that what me and my partner do when we want to introduce something new... it's not the best of times to get an unwanted surprise :P ! Good luck

LegacyUser

he's watched one too many porno's and thinks the choking is the norm......... Unless you're into it and consented before hand it's not

Zen65

Jessie2010 wrote: »

......he put his hands around my neck and to me, tried to choke me.

Sounds like ....

- something he learned from a previous partner who may have enjoyed that, or

- something he'd like you to do to him some time, or

- something he read in a book somewhere, like "how to drive your woman wild" sort of thing, or

- he's an idiot and a friend told him this would be a great move in bed. The friend was just taking the p**s

As long as he knows not to do it again, and more importantly to discuss any other ideas he may have before he tries them with you, no harm done?

Be at peace,

Z

LegacyUser

Don't read too much into it. He probably got carried away and just grabbed you. I do it all the time without realising, not in any way meaning harm , jst caught in the moment.

People here should give him a break for **** sake. If you dont know what its like to lose control while having sex then I feel terribly sorry for you.