My dad is cheating again

Weetbix

I apologize for the way its layed out
Am very much upset..

Am the eldest of Six kids. Am not appreciated for the help i do give in house and my mom is always

hungry and cursing at everyone she hits my dad and me on days shes not happy its a *****.
My dad as already cheated on my mother in result he has a child who now lives with us due to my mother taking her in. My mother isn't an evil woman but she as a habit of drinking and when she drinks it not a nice sight because she does thing that isn't right. i try my best to keep the little ones as far away from her as
possible she doesn't hit them but she talks to them in a way that i feel the kids might start wondering "What wrong with mommy" and start saying things at school.
Now i found evidents my fathers laptop that he is cheating this is not like a email or nothing it a video recording of a video chat he had with a woman who was stripping for him and he was having internet sex with her. They were speaking to one another like they have known each other for a long time.


Now you people might be thinking i should tell but i feel both my parents are horrible people who deserve to rot in hell together for bringing kids into the world when they know they can't care for them. My reason for not getting iin between are simple
1 I want my sister to grow in a family of two parents
2 Both my parents suit each other in the respect that even though my mom is horrible she cooks and takes care of the kids and works which earns money but she drinks so she doesn't care about if the kids are doing well at school or not.
My is stupid he ddon'thave any type of cert but he want us to go to school and pass to college and he is more rrelabelfor money, and he isn't ccruelhe doesn't do or say horrible things to his kids that make them feel lost and unhappy.

I just want my ssiblingand mmyselfto be secure first then they can DEAD FOR ALL I CARE! i will not let kids that didn't know that life is this way suffer they are too intelligent and innocent to suffer...

I wish i could just died my mother always says i didn't write a letter for you to come my way.
I wish i could shout back that i was made come your way


Am only 16 i don't want my life ruined and i sure as hell don't want to sisters and brothers life ruined because of a bunch of low llife's.

Now don't get me wrong if you saw us outside you would see a mid class above average happy family with beautiful kids and responible mom and father that were able to pull it together after a hard patch

ted1

TBH if your mum is a drinker and hard work. The marriage may be well over and he is only their because of you guys. I would hold off telling your mum. Maybe talk to your dad and tell him what you saw. Your a good person to look after your siblings but don't take it all on your self.

Crea

Weetabix - I am so sorry that you have to go through this especially at such a young age. It sounds like you are a great brother and are the trying to protect your siblings.
It sounds like there are 2 problems in your house:
1. Your dads philandering. I wouldn't tell your mother about this behaviour as yet. She is not strong enough to deal with this and as bad as things are now telling her will make things 100 times worse.
2. Your mothers drinking and cruel behaviour. It sounds like either she is suffering from depression or/and is an alcoholic. This is not an excuse but her behaviour won't change until she faces this. She won't hear this from you, I can tell you that now. Can you talk to someone outside of the house eg: an aunt/uncle/grandmother who can talk to her or listen to you? Can you talk to your father about keeping an eye on the younger ones school work?
Dealing with 6 children is very stressful especially when other difficulties are going on within the marriage.
My mother was like this when I was in my teens (without the booze). Unknown to us my parents marriage was going down the crapper and she used to take this stress and unhappiness out on us by screaming, shouting and being cruel. She didn't keep an eye on our school work and the younger ones went off the rails for a while.


I really hope that things improve for you and your siblings but you cannot fix this expecially not by yourself. Your father needs to focus on his children and your mother needs to get help.