Ever notice...

LegacyUser

Ever notice how some people just simply cannot seem to mind their own business. and how jealousy pops up its ugly head in situations like the following.



There's a couple of people booking a flight to a place for a couple of months away.
Some are choosing not to go because they "cannot afford it" I am borrowing to go, because I really want to go. But as I was arranging the booking, one person, who cannot seem to keep her nose out of my business was hovering around, texting while she was listening to every word I was saying to the person I was arranging the flight with.

Then earlier I over heard another person, saying to the first person mentioned above, *she's going you know that? *

As if it's their business or something ! They simply cannot be happy about the fact that I'm going and are instead choosing to bitch and moan and whine about their own situations in comparison to mine.

This is why two of the above mentioned people are not my friends. Because 1. my friends do not bitch about me jealously behind my back,

and 2. my friends build me up, are not jealous of me, do not use me when they just need something from me.

But I seriously want to have it out with one of these girls, because I am 90% intuitively sure that she simply cannot stop obsessing over her own situation in comparison to mine, and she simply cannot stop bitching about me and has been doing so, and simply cannot stay out of my business.

It's a real test of my patience and self control.
And I commend myself that I haven't already decked her.

Oryx

wibiily wrote: »

she simply cannot stop obsessing over her own situation in comparison to mine, and she simply cannot stop bitching about me and has been doing so, and simply cannot stay out of my business.

Simply put, take your own advice. Stop obsessing over what other people are doing. Sticks and stones, etc. Choose friends that really are friends, and ignore the silly gossips.

johnboysligo

If mrs big noes starts gossiping about you just ignore he as best you can but dont be afraid to put your foot down and tell her to go away (just say something politely and gently like "do you mind?" ) while your on the phone or computer and she is hovering around you.

worthless burk that she is has nothing better to do that talk about you and if you place her in a sitiuation where she has the choice of acting like a bitch or feck off she will more than likely feck off.

Sounds confrontational and it is. You have your rights to privacy in personal matters.

Im guessing you work together and if she keeps it up keeps acting like a nosy bitch than take it up with your boss.

Cheap Thrills!

Oh OP!! FFS! Don't be listening to other peoples private conversations even if they're about you.

Honestly, eavesdropping will never bring any pleasant listening to the egotistical ear!!

The truth is as soon as any of us leaves the room, people will either totally tumbleweed or have a comical/bitchy bit of banter.

Don't listen to anything about yourself, really its none of any of our business what others say about us.

If someone is invading your personal space (eg at a check in desk) turn around and pointedly ask them if they would mind stepping back out of listening space. If they havent the cop on to do that then tell them.

They are the ones who should be embarassed at being so socially inept at moronically nosing into someone elses business.

Tell them to back the fcuk up and mind their own business. Can't moan about socially inept people if you dont first stand up to them and explain politely where the ordinary boundaries are.

Zen65

wibiily wrote: »

It's a real test of my patience and self control.
And I commend myself that I haven't already decked her.

It seems under-ambitious to set such a low target for yourself that you would commend yourself for not responding to nosiness with violence!

OP - it's your life. Live it for yourself and do not expend any time considering how others judge you for that.

Be at peace,

Z

LegacyUser

Of course it's my business if someone has been badmouthing me.

LegacyUser

You can't undo what's happened& who these people are.
What you can do is limit the amount of information you're giving them to feed off. Ie: no personal phonecalls in their company, no personal information in their company/within their hearing. Problem solved. The less they know, the less they've to talk about.
Of course they're jealous, anyone would love a holiday in this economic climate, I don't think it's an unreasonable response from them. And I'm sure they're jealous of everyone else going on the holiday too, it can't be directed solely at you?!

dudara

Oryx beat me to it - you're equally guilty of obsessing here. You appear to be convinced that they are jealous of you - that even perhaps you think you are worth being jealous of.

You claim to be straightforward and honest, but one could even argue that by coming on the internet and bitching about them behind their backs, that you are behaving equally badly.

Simply put - leave them be. Live your life and let others get on with theirs.