Perspective please?

LegacyUser

Hey, unreg for this. Been dating a guy for 3 weeks. We get on great and I really like him, and he likes me. Week into us dating however, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes but Im wondering was it the right thing to do? Was it too early for it? Im wondering because I feel now that the chase is over and Im in the girlfriend role. If he had told me he wasnt seeing other people, that would of been grand, so it would of been exclusive. Im ready to be in a relationship,Im just worried it could be the kiss of death? I also dont want to push him away by rejecting him but I think he asked me for the wrong reasons . But if he felt that way, wouldnt he say it? Advice?

mrpink6789

if you like someone and they like you what does it matter? I recently started seeing someone and I asked after about a m onth of dating. Now Im wondering how much chasing I should do! If I keep on asking her out does she think im stalkerish! bloody relationships are tough work :P
You found someone who you like and who likes you, you should be delighted, just go with the flow. He will still chase you, we cant just turn off once we get the boyfriend status!

Beruthiel

newgirlfriend wrote: »

I feel now that the chase is over

Chase?
Quit reading Mills & Boon.
I can't abide game playing, just be yourself. Nothing else is required.

ManOfMystery

newgirlfriend wrote: »

Hey, unreg for this. Been dating a guy for 3 weeks. We get on great and I really like him, and he likes me. Week into us dating however, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes but Im wondering was it the right thing to do? Was it too early for it? Im wondering because I feel now that the chase is over and Im in the girlfriend role. If he had told me he wasnt seeing other people, that would of been grand, so it would of been exclusive. Im ready to be in a relationship,Im just worried it could be the kiss of death? I also dont want to push him away by rejecting him but I think he asked me for the wrong reasons . But if he felt that way, wouldnt he say it? Advice?

Talk about overcomplicating things!

You went on a few dates, he likes you and wants to go steady, end of story. There's no need to read into things or analyse any more than that.

LegacyUser

See, Im just concerned because hes been acting very distant and odd all of a sudden....Not sure what I should do. I asked once if hes ok and he said hes fine. Now what?

mrpink6789

His friends have told him to play it cool, I was int he same boat, I dont want to come off as too strong so I am trying to tone down some of the contact with my new girlfriend, purely because I would like her to arrange a date or two now as I was doing all the chasing before, try it out, nothing better then both parties doing the "chasing" as you say. Alls good so dont worry about it too much.

LegacyUser

Im concerned. Its just, he was texting constantly when we were dating. Now my texts go unanswered for hours or i text him again. Yet when Im with him, everything is fine? Any guys wanna shed some light on this?
And Im also afraid to ask why hes doing this or did i do something wrong cause it looks needy. but i have a feeling somethings wrong? Help!!

mrpink6789

Most blokes wouldnt communicate as much as women so dont be worrying about it, if its fine when you are around him then it is fine. You are over analysing things because you like this guy and dont want it to end.

I am totally in the same boat with a new gfriend, i am a constant texter which i have come to stop being and when i text her she doesnt reply for ages, we always assume the worst.

There is no harm in having a talk about it. You have to phrase it right though, dont use phrases like needy etc. Just bring it up saying I text you at random times because i want to be at the stage where I can start talking to you about my day, no matter how boring it is, and I want you to feel the same - always throw it back at him to see his reaction. He may very well say he is not a massive texter and you'll know then.