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What to do with this guy?

  • 14-12-2010 1:23pm
    #1
    EmmaGEM11
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19 ✭


    Hi there

    Just looking for various opinions.

    I met this guy about ten years ago, we were in college, always fancied him. Anyhow we kind of got together, nothing major, then he started seeing someone else, no big deal. Up through the years we met as we have a mutual friend, he asked me out twice, once in 04 and once in 07, I was seeing someone else. I asked him out in 08, he was seeing someone else, he asked me out in 09, I was with someone else. Anyway I am not long out of a decent relationship due to the fact I wasn't ready to get married.

    Anyway, I met this guy on Saturday night, my heart flipped several times, I just fancy the pants off this guy. So we ended up kissing and I slept in his bed but nothing happened. Then on Sunday he dropped me home and kissed me goodbye. I said would he like to meet again and he said yes but as friends for the moment as he couldn't promise anything over the next two weeks as he has family stuff to do which I knew about and understood, long story but definitely not an excuse on his part. I said grand and I said I wasn't looking for anything serious as I wasn't long out of a relationship (I do mean that) and he said great he would love to meet me for a drink or dinner.

    So that's where it is at. The thing is I get the feeling that he is afraid of me wanting to get serious or something but I genuinely don't. I want to have a few dates and a bit of fun, that's all, how does a girl make that very clear to him so he will just enjoy the craic too. We are being straight with one another because after all these years we respect one another.

    Thanks for reading and I hope it makes sense..


Comments

  • #2
    Zeouterlimits
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 988 ✭✭✭Zeouterlimits


    If you're being straight with him and said "I genuinely don't. I want to have a few dates and a bit of fun" then he should understand.


  • #3
    EmmaGEM11
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19 ✭EmmaGEM11


    Thanks for your reply. I'd be just concerned I'm being too straight which is possibly a fault of mine and come across like a man eater! I'm basically up for a fling with this guy and maybe I'm asking for advice on something I already know the answer to. I suppose how would a guy take that?


  • #4
    seamus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 68,317 ✭✭✭✭seamus


    EmmaGEM11 wrote: »
    I'd be just concerned I'm being too straight
    It's hard to be too straight.

    The only problem with saying, "I'm interested in a fling" is that it gives the impression that you're happy to turn up at his house at 10pm, spend the night and then head to work in the morning, no strings attached. If that's all you want, then no harm.


  • #5
    EmmaGEM11
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19 ✭EmmaGEM11


    Yes that's true. I suppose what I'm trying to do here is get this guy out of my system once and for all and have fun in the process. What I do know about this guy and it is the one deterent is that he can possibly play games. I just want to say this is how I feel, do you want to have fun or not sort of thing! I don't want games.

    seamus wrote: »
    It's hard to be too straight.

    The only problem with saying, "I'm interested in a fling" is that it gives the impression that you're happy to turn up at his house at 10pm, spend the night and then head to work in the morning, no strings attached. If that's all you want, then no harm.


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