Confused

fivebyfive

Hi, I'm New Here

And I've Been Confused About Either Being Bi/Lesbian For About 6 Years (Im 19,Female) and I've Never Been In A Relationship With Anyone (Which Makes It Harder)

But I Think I'm More Attracted To Women Then Men, But Then I Can See Myself Married To A Guy & Having Kids (Which I Do Want Kids Someday)

* I've Taken 10 Quizzes and They All Say I'm Bi*

- I Have A Few Friends Who Are Gay and My Aunt Is Gay and My Family Supports Her But I'm Afraid That They (My Family) Wont Except Me (No one Really Talks about it)

Especially My Dad (even though i don't ever talk/see him) Because He Doesn't Approve My Aunts Lifestyle, But He Said He Would Love Me No Matter What (But I Don't Know)

I'd Talk To My Aunt/Her GF But I'm Afraid To, (Plus If You Tell Them Something, They Tell Everyone Everything.)

Any Advise

- fivebyfive -

hare05

Firstly, don't be pressured to listen to quizzes. No quizzes exist that can factor in everything about you.

I'm exactly like you, never been in a relationship, but I came out as bi because that's the label I felt suits me the best. However you shouldn't feel pressured to take on a label if you don't want to.

Just do whatever you feel like, find someone you love, then worry about the parents. If you need to talk to someone in person, your aunt will be supportive.

At the end of the day, your orientation really isn't a big deal. No matter who you fall in love with, you are still you, and your family will recognise that (though it might take a little while)

Annasopra

I got really confused reading that - capitalising every first letter is very distracting - I think you are over worrying about things and your family will be fine - Talk to your Aunt but tell her you don't want it repeated

fivebyfive

hare05 wrote: »

Firstly, don't be pressured to listen to quizzes. No quizzes exist that can factor in everything about you.

I'm exactly like you, never been in a relationship, but I came out as bi because that's the label I felt suits me the best. However you shouldn't feel pressured to take on a label if you don't want to.

Just do whatever you feel like, find someone you love, then worry about the parents. If you need to talk to someone in person, your aunt will be supportive.

At the end of the day, your orientation really isn't a big deal. No matter who you fall in love with, you are still you, and your family will recognise that (though it might take a little while)

Thank You For The Advise

Johnnymcg wrote: »

I got really confused reading that - capitalising every first letter is very distracting - I think you are over worrying about things and your family will be fine - Talk to your Aunt but tell her you don't want it repeated

Sorry, I'm used to typing like that.

hypersquirrel

Don't worry about the quizzes. At 19 you're probably still figuring yourself out.

I didn't go out on any dates until I was 19 myself and at that point I was identifying myself as bi. I was like you in that I saw myself as being able to be with either but more so settled down married with kids.

Three weeks ago I came out and told my mum I was a lesbian. I realised that I was never really happy when I was in relationships with men. I always got on fantastically with boyfriends but really I always felt more like they were just close friends.

You have plenty of time to figure out what you are so there is no need to try and put a label on yourself just yet. Explore both options and see how you feel in a year or two. You might find that you're like me and don't really find yourself interested in men long term or you may find that any interest in women is curiosity.

I'm 23 now and only just starting to figure things out and I know many people far older than I am who are in the same boat.

bitter_lemon

I'm a bit confused too!
Some time last month I went to the ladies lounge on the boards here thinking they were all lesbos :P
em they were not. they were nice and all though. felt a bit silly ha