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Sabotaging my own life!!

  • 13-12-2010 3:41pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi Guys,

    Just looking for some opinions on this as I feel like I’m going crazy.
    I’ve been seeing a really great for the past 2 months and I think he’s amazing.
    He‘s one of the most stunning looking people I’ve ever laid eyes on in my life and
    funny, kind and interesting to boot. Sounds sweet right? Well it’s not...

    Before meeting him I was full of confidence. I’m always getting asked out by men and
    Complimented on how I look etc but since I’ve started seeing him I am full of self doubt.

    He is so charming, good looking, funny and sound that I can’t believe my luck in finding him and
    I can’t quite accept that he would want to be with me. I would be considered funny and smart by
    My friends but around him I’m acting way more quiet than usual and I think it’s because I’m so nervous and I don’t feel good enough for him.

    I am convinced that every girl wants him (how could they not??!!) and that he’s only using me for
    S*x.

    Also, he spent 6 months travelling Asia before meeting me and I can’t stop imagining how stunning the Thai women were compared to me.

    I know I sound stupid and very immature but this making me sick (physically and mentally) to the point where I feel that I should not see him anymore. I guess I can’t handle going out with someone so good looking and sound.

    What is wrong with me???


Comments

  • #2
    Jennifurball
    Closed Accounts Posts: 133 ✭✭Jennifurball


    He is stunning to YOU not every woman walking the planet. I made the mistake of thinking everyone wanted my ex because of the qualities I saw in him, when in reality, he didn't get a second look. We all have our own personal tastes.

    You seriously need to stop putting him on a pedestal though, work on your own confidence. You don't need to finish it, just step back and see the bigger picture, he isn't being forced to go out with you. Confidence is more attractive than anything, if you believe you are an amazing beautiful person, then he will. If you give off vibes that you are worthless, it will come across as unattractive and will put him off.

    Don't look at other women, don't imagine how amazingly beautiful women from his past are, the reality is often different. Just enjoy it and don't spoil it by obssessing!


  • #3
    I am a friend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭I am a friend


    Well I dont consider Brad Pitt attractive and how many women are going to disagree with me here? Also due to his relationship history I would not be interested in a relationship with him (bear with me here ... I know it will never happen) and the point is 'one mans trash is another mans treasure' or even the opposite, but you know what i mean.

    He may be cute to you but maybe its the whole package and maybe someone else wont see that. You are also effectively, without saying it directly, saying you dont trust him. The implication is there that he is using you for sex or will cheat on you etc etc. You are not giving him much credit are you?

    He is with you for a reason and if you mess it up by doubting him then you may end up regretting it.


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