When did you know for certain you were gay?

cooltown

When did you know for certain you were gay?

ninty9er

I reckon it was around May of this year when I figured it out myself. I had done the whole "maybe bisexual" phase, given myself a serious mental grilling, before I figured it out. I told my parents in August, some of the lads had it figured out already.

I'll be 24 the end of the month.

rainbow kirby

Was absolutely certain when I was about 22, though I thought I was bi for a while before that.

hypersquirrel

I'm 23 now and I only really accepted it three weeks ago but thought I was bi for a few years before that. Now that I think about it I know I was just kidding myself in the hopes of an easier life. I don't eve n really know what happened. I just got stressed out and started crying to Mum saying I wanted to drop out of college and that I was a lesbian. She was more concerned about the college issue :P

Sir Ophiuchus

When I had a serious crush for the first time. I was 20.

Rick_

I always knew I was gay since I was around 12/13. I had a major crush on my, at the time, best friend for several years. It all went tits up though when I told him one day how I felt. I think I was 17 at the time. We didn't speak much after that. We still do see each other now and again and chat but we aren't anywhere near as close as we were. We both have different groups of friends now.

dory

When I first kissed a girl at 19. Was still a wee bit confuzzled for a while after that.

baby and crumble

When a new teacher arrived at my school when I was 16. I hated her on sight. Then I realised that I was constantly looking for her in corridors etc. It was like one day I was having this rant in my head in class:

"God she thinks she so cool with her stupid blond hair and her great figure and her amazing hockey skills and her lovely legs and her sexy voice... Wait, WHAT???!?!?!?!??!???"

The rest, as they say, is history.

Came out to my best friend the night of the leaving results, the rest of my friends followed in 1st & 2nd year of college and my folks in 4th year.

DubArk

When I realized everyone else was fascinated about their opposite sex and I wasn’t… I realized I was the odd one out at about 12 years old! It was not till I was about 19yrs old ,that I acted on it….. Scary days!! :eek:

deirdre_dub

I do not believe I'm gay - I'm probably bi, though I seem to be mostly straight.

What I am certain about, though, is that I'm trans. When did I know for certain I was trans? Aged 39.

Chuchoter

Last year, I was 16. God knows how it didn't dawn on me sooner! I was called a lesbian for the whole of 6th class because I spent the year draped over a girl called Stephanie (who is now a minger I might add). I suppose you say something enough times... :P First kissed a girl at 13, nearly 14. Groups of girls who've never been drunk before are awesome for those sorts of things XD

SparkyTech

I think the first time I spotted Richard Armitage on television at 16 (my first celeb crush!)

Quentinkrisp

Had my first inklings when I was 12, knew for definite by the time i was 14.....keeping it hidden from my peers for the next 4 years was tricky as fuck:(:mad:

Rick_

SparkyTech wrote: »

I think the first time I spotted Richard Armitage on television at 16 (my first celeb crush!)

I feel like I must say congratulations or something to you for openly admitting that in the public domain! What were you thinking, I can't stand him in the slightest!

Quentinkrisp

SparkyTech wrote: »

I think the first time I spotted Richard Armitage on television at 16 (my first celeb crush!)

Just after googling him, not a bad looking chap at all;)

SparkyTech

Not to mention the sexy quintessential English drawl

littlehedgehog

I realised for definite when I was about 15. I walked out of a disco, and there were two girls holding each other and swaying to the music..

'Ehhhhh.. what're... ye.. doing?"

I was then told that the girls were bisexual.. which was when you liked both boys and girls.. and then.. "Wait.. a.. goshdarn.. second.. you can LIKE GIRLS?"

BOOM.


Looking back though, it should've been blindingly obvious - when I was in fourth class, there was this girl (isn't there always..) and I used to daydream about being her husband.. taking her out to restaurants.. marrying her..

L1011

15 or so, though I did try and occasionally convince myself I was bi for a while after that. A growing revulsion to ladybits did for that...

maryd83

Last week. Seriously.

Did the whole bi thing too. Always knew I liked girls and didn't know exactly if I liked guys. Yeah, not so much it turns out.

flyaway.

I knew for certain when I was 17.

Annasopra

it was really gradual over about 9 years because I denied it to everyone in school and myself from about 12/13 onwards

LookingFor

Puberty I guess. I had inklings earlier than that, but I didn't know what 'gay' was. Puberty is when it became obvious to me, and when I realised what gay meant. I think everyone has a period of denial and whatever, but I was reasonably certain I'd say around 13 or 14. I denied it to everyone else for much longer, but by then I wasn't denying it to myself.

metamorphosis

there was always that little ticking box in the back of my head and i always knew i was gay but i suppose didn't think about it too much until later in secondary school when you start to acknowledge these things more. My 'outing' process was very slow in the fact that i told some good friends in leaving cert year and this continued throughout college and its only this year that everyone knows (or everyone that needs to know knows, everybody else can just ask me!)

mollzer

I knew for certain at 33 ! very slow process for me, years of denial and confusion before that.

LegacyUser

I always knew I was gay but I just assumed I'd be attracted to girls some day. I was in total denial in school right up to when I was 20. Then I went exploring and stuff. Nothing has ever felt so right. I haven't looked back since and I've told my friends. Planning on telling my family very soon. I'm so much happier since I came out! :-) It kinda gets me down sometimes that I came out late enough, missed out on a lot of fun the last 4 years!

LegacyUser

I guess I knew when I was about 12, I was in an all boys school and I had crushes on loads of my class mates.

LegacyUser

Knew for sure when I turned 18, but had always knew i was different from the rest of the lads. Lusted after two guys in secondary school - Shane and Darren, the rugby team hunks.
Had a bad crush on Andy the bus driver too - think that was when I really knew I was gay. The things I'd imagined that he was gonna do to me on the back seat of that bus . . .

DS333

I knew instinctively, at the age of 6, that I was one of those "ghastly, wicked people" the family kept ranting on about ad nauseum. I knew nothing about them but I knew I was one of them. Then I ran and kept running for 30 years. That was a marathon and a half.

moceri

At 11, at school, I clearly remember a young trainee teacher, we had for a few weeks, who was a breath of fresh air amongst what were much older teachers. He taught us "Thugamar Fein An Samhradh Linn". He was defo Hot.- (1977)

foggy_lad

long before i even knew what Gay was or meant. i was probably about 9-11years old

keepkeyyellow

I knew from when I was 11/12 but in the past while a couple of people have come out in their second year of college and it's really opened my eyes about how difficult it is to some people to accept their sexuality.

Dr. Baltar

I remember having an innocent crush on a guy when I was about 9 or 10.

However I knew I was n't straight from about the age of 13. In college (2 years ago) I came out as bi. 2 years later, I would still put myself in that category.

KnifeWRENCH

I didn't start questioning myself until I was about 17. Up until that point, I assumed I was straight but in hindsight I realise I was actually more asexual. Didn't really have any teenage crushes or anything.

A year or two later, I realised I wasn't straight. I'm still not sure whether I'm bisexual or gay (I reluctantly identify as the former but prefer not to identify as anything if possible) and to be honest I'm not bothered anymore which I am. Que sera sera, and all that...

Goodshape

Johnnymcg wrote: »

it was really gradual over about 9 years because I denied it to everyone in school and myself from about 12/13 onwards

^^ same as that. I pretty much knew that I liked boys from 12/13, maybe even a couple of years before, but I didn't accept it until around 17 -- and then only accepted it as a negative. Finally embraced it at 21.

johnnycee66

From puberty (12/13), but had a sense of "difference" before, and then hanging around with the lads, realising that my desires and yearnings were different from theirs. We didnt even know what gay or queer was, but as I found out, it slowly dawned that this was me! So definitely knew irrefutably by 15/16

Killer_banana

Realised I was bi at 15. I had just always assumed I was straight and I honestly can't remember what originally made me question that I wasn't. Started coming out to my close friends after a few months or so. Was lucky to have them not care to the point it evenetually became a non-issue and I didn't care who knew (i.e if someone asked I'd answer honestly, I didn't announce it to the world or anything).

That said I still haven't come out to my family. I don't think my brothers would take it badly, we just never talk about anything like relationships with each other so it's never really come up. My parents are quite religious so i'm not really sure what they would think of it. I can see my dad possibly accepting it but not so much my mother. She has no problem with gay people but I think she wouldn't be as tolerant if it was one of her own children if you get me. Also I don't think they would really understand me being bisexual. Probably just assume I was gay and in denial.

gmale

I dont really remember a time when I didnt know. I remember being around 8 or 9 and hearing someone in school call another kid "gay" in the derogaotory way. I didnt know at the time what "gay" was, i just knew that it was bad. Then when I figured out what it meant later that day or week it kind of clicked, wait a minute thats what I am! I was absolutley certain at that point cos I knew that I was not going to be interested in girls when I got older (thought I was destined to be a priest or something).

Suddenly being Gay was a bad thing, I knew I couldnt tell anyone, so began 10 years of silence. Never telling anyone but always seeking out more info about it.

lottpaul

When I was about 11 or 12 - even though I didn't have a "name" for it, I definitely knew I was only attracted to guys.

Aishae

well i realised it for myself when i was 21 - im 27 soon. i'd had crushes on girls from afar but never thought much of it. i had a long term boyfriend in my late teens. i bloody hated going down on him... then i kept crushing hard on someone i worked with - who was the wrong side of 40 and i found sexy as hell, i realised not all. but quite a few of my crushes (captain janeway in star trek voyager!) were older ladies. i came out to people soon after i realised cos i didnt question whether or not i liked girls. i questioned whether or not i like boys. i have crushes on interesting - usually strange choices - men but not many really. ive never had the chance to put the girl aspect to the test even though i know thats true. but i guess until i do, i wont know for sure how men will measure up on my like-o-meter

AndrewJD

Aishae wrote: »

captain janeway in star trek voyager!

Hot. As. Hell.

I did the horrendously common "I'm probably bi" thing from maybe 13-14, quite a slow realisation of those feelings - initially (don't think less of me) just from pornography. It wasn't really until 15 and onwards it stopped being an internal dirty little secret and more something I embraced in a larger way, finding real people attractive, seeing yourself in relationships etc. Around 16 I dropped the silly bisexual idea, admitting I hadn't had sexual feelings for women in 2 or 3 years. Took me another 18 months to finally tell anyone about it. Not that I was ever particularly unhappy about any of this stuff.

giveth

I can't really remember ever not knowing. As a young teenager I did seem to be attracted to both boys and girls and I remember thinking I might be going through a "gay phase" that I thought I might grow out of. However it seems instead I was going through a "straight phase" which I grew out of!

hotmail.com

Junior Infants.

I also always knew I did not fancy women in the slightest.

I personally find it difficult to understand why people only realise it in their 20s!

What did they masterbate to up til then!? Men or women?

Kanoe

KnifeWRENCH wrote: »

I didn't start questioning myself until I was about 17. Up until that point, I assumed I was straight but in hindsight I realise I was actually more asexual. Didn't really have any teenage crushes or anything.

A year or two later, I realised I wasn't straight. I'm still not sure whether I'm bisexual or gay (I reluctantly identify as the former but prefer not to identify as anything if possible) and to be honest I'm not bothered anymore which I am. Que sera sera, and all that...

bit like you. when i was very young thought it was perfectly normal to want to be with girls (they liked me) and then when i realised i wasnt supposed to do that I did my best to normalise but genuinely I would prefer to be on my own than with a guy and was not until my thirties did I consider that it was ok. still can't really identify as gay though..have dated women but I tend to fall in love with them an awful lot and for the life of me can't associate that with being gay. queer yeah...gay...mmm no. or I dunno..maybe..f/ck it who cares.

foggy_lad

i did have a girlfiend at about 11 but that was her idea not mine, and she used to threaten to hit me so i would let her kiss me when her friends were looking:)

Kanoe

i'm female

DubArk

brandanderson wrote: »

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First post fail.... WTF:rolleyes: Mods?

Kanoe

I like organisms