Really Wanna Chat Up Guy In Work....But Not Desperately

LegacyUser

I've been really attracted to a guy I work with for ages and we've exchanged several glances but spoken very little. Theres a work night out coming up soon and I'd love to chat him up and talk to him and see what happens but don't wanna seem too pushy or desperate.

Would it be a bit forward for me to really flirt with him or should I wait to see if he approaches me? It would make my night to have a good chat with him and get to know him better....through conversation and maybe more......Would guys be flattered in this situation?

sharky86

I think you should just has a casual chat with him at the party, I'd be flattered

whatsamsn

So you havent really talked to him that much in the job?

Smart person would take advantage that a work night is happening soon
If you chat to him prior to the work night out, you can easily approach him on the night. Without any awkwardness. Then you can make a move. Ideally the best play would be to chat to him and flirt with him before the work night. Setting things up. But either one will even do.


As for how to chat to him before then?
Anything can do. Even a simple 5 worded conversation in work can eilminate the ice breaking process on the night. So even an opening of "hey, how are you? enjoying the night?" will not be awkward.

Lucyx

whatsamsn wrote: »

So you havent really talked to him that much in the job?

Smart person would take advantage that a work night is happening soon
If you chat to him prior to the work night out, you can easily approach him on the night. Without any awkwardness. Then you can make a move. Ideally the best play would be to chat to him and flirt with him before the work night. Setting things up. But either one will even do.


As for how to chat to him before then?
Anything can do. Even a simple 5 worded conversation in work can eilminate the ice breaking process on the night. So even an opening of "hey, how are you? enjoying the night?" will not be awkward.

+1

This is a great idea. It would make things on the actual night that much easier

John400

sharky86 wrote: »

I think you should just has a casual chat with him at the party, I'd be flattered

Agreed.

Most guys would be flattered if you made the effort.

Monkey09

Go for it!!

Try to talk to him briefly in the lead up to the night out, it'll make things that bit easier on the night..

Good Luck!!

LegacyUser

so i had my xmas party and thank christ i got talking to my crush. it was great having a chat with him and spending a bit of time with him and i think he enjoyed spending a bit of time with me too. the only thing is the opportunity didn't arise to take things a step further. I'd have loved to kiss him but I'm still very pleased that I'll be able to talk to him in work now.

so i'd like to ask him out (john400 has an almost identical issue on here!!) but I'm not sure how and obviously i'll be so anxious about it. so should i ask to his face or email? i don't want to wuss out or take the cowards way out by emailing but at least if he says no then it saves us both the embarassment of the rejection!!

i kinda would like to see his reaction to my asking him though. and i wanna be an adult about it.

Sephiroth_dude

Dont do it by email anyway,do it face to face maybe sugguest going for a drink or a coffee after work or something?

BraziliaNZ

John400 wrote: »

Agreed.

Most guys would be flattered if you made the effort.

Not if she's pig ugly, let's be real here! If she's a hottie, he'd probably be flattered yes.

John400

BraziliaNZ wrote: »

Not if she's pig ugly, let's be real here! If she's a hottie, he'd probably be flattered yes.

Oh of course any girl who isn't a supermodel who asks a guy out translates into automatic disgust from him because she isn't in Megan Fox's league.

'Hotties' win all the time. :rolleyes: