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Do I have a problem with food?

  • 12-12-2010 9:06pm
    #1
    cooltown
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 288 ✭✭


    Well I am an 18 year old male who is gay and I'm finding it hard to be happy due to bullying and a few other issues in my life but over the last 2 years food has really taken over my life. Ia suppose it because I get bullied at school and I don't feel safe going out in town with friends because I run into the bullies so I don't bother going out anymore so I spend a of time at home eating loads of food. I know it a problem at my bmi u set be 20 last year and and now it's 25.
    I eat to make myself happy because I feel so sad and if i'm being honest food is my best friend and it never hurts me.
    Any advice?


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  • #2
    Fluorescence
    Moderators, Music Moderators Posts: 8,490 Mod ✭✭✭✭Fluorescence


    I know it's tough when you get used to food being a comfort and habit. It's important that you remind yourself that food is just that... food. It fuels your body. It isn't a friend, it isn't going to solve all your problems, it isn't going to make you happy. Any time you find yourself going for food (outside your regular meals obviously), ask yourself, "Why do I want to eat this? Is it worth it? What will I really gain from eating this?" Try to keep in mind that eating "cleanly" makes you feel better, physically and emotionally. Rubbish food makes your mind sluggish and your mood suffers.

    Find a hobby (physical might be better ;) ) that will get you out of the house and meeting people completely unrelated to the bullies you have issues with. Find something that you can be confident with, and allow that feeling of indomnitability permeate you. Once you start finding comfort and happiness in areas unrelated to food, your dependence on it besides the need for nourishment should diminish.

    Also, a visit with a mental health professional who's used to dealing with cases like yours might be worth looking into. It seems you know the root of your dependence on food, so you already have a head-start. Best of luck!


  • #3
    whatsamsn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 911 ✭✭✭whatsamsn


    Sounds like you are comfort eating from bullying.

    I really reckon a change of social circles would help you out alot. I know its not your friends who are bullying you. But how alot of people deal with bullying is to first get away from all that sh*t.


  • #4
    Bottle_of_Smoke
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,770 ✭✭✭Bottle_of_Smoke


    Yes it is a problem if you're doing it to comfort yourself.

    Agree with counselling. A BMI of 25 is generally fine but if you've had rapid weight gain you have to sort yourself out. At least you're realising it now instead of when your bmi is 30.

    Being gay is normal to reasonable people. When you finish school you can move away. You may not even need to once you find a new circle of friends. So that's not a long term issue.

    Do seek help where possible and don't keep things bottled up. Perhaps post on the LGBT forum if being gay is causing problems for you.


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