new to dating & confused :(

liz2

hi all,
my head has been wrecked for the last few days so i was wondering if anyone cud maybe give me their opinion
im only back on the dating scene for the last few months after being in a long-term relationship & have 3 kids. so im a bit of a rookie when it comes to this stuff! i had been on a few dates, met some lovely guys & some disaster ones, lol, and even thou im not ready for a serious relationship just yet, i wud like the in-between thing where i cud meet someone for the usual hang out, dates, kissing, cuddling etc..but also dont want the 'no strings attached thing'. Is there such a thing that cud work??
so anyway, i had met this lovely guy, have been on 4 dates & it all seemed to be going well until the communications stopped, ie.texting, mailing on fb etc. i usually wud have just left it go & thought ah well it wasnt meant to be! but this was different, i like him & we got on really well. so it bothered me.
so to cut a long story short, i mailed him the other day to ask him what it was he was looking for..we ended up having a long conversation about what we were both looking for & at the time it seemed we had sorted it out. that was fri night & now its sun eve and again still no text. texting was our usual contact u see.
what do ye think, shud i be leaving it up to him to text or shud i?
theres a bit more to it..ie the conversation, so if ye need more info, just ask
thanks alot

liz2

i decided to put another bit onto this..to give more info
the thing is, when we meet up we get on really well. have pretty much had the same past experiences, same interests & always have a good laugh. he seemed really keen at the start, texting me to just say hi or asking me when i wud be free again to meet up. he also has 3 kids but was never married, so he'd understand my family life too.
so the last time we had met up was tues, had a lovely time & then when i heard nothing by thurs, i sent a casual chirpy text just to say hi. got no reply so chanced mailing him on fb fri night wen we were both online. convo started off lightly & then when he thru a msg that suggested he wanted to meet again i decided to ask him straight out was he was looking for out of this. (i had to, for myself, as it was bothering me that i had been ignored?)
he said he didnt know but that he did enjoy meeting me but that he was lost. i asked him what he meant & he said he wasnt ready for a serious bf/gf thing like me nor did he want a 'no strings attached thing'. he asked if we cud go with the flow and i agreed. so from this i took it that all was ok & thought no more of it. and now im getting the silent treatment again? im at a loss here..dont know what to think.

whatsamsn

liz2 wrote: »

.....he said he didnt know but that he did enjoy meeting me but that he was lost. i asked him what he meant & he said he wasnt ready for a serious bf/gf thing like me nor did he want a 'no strings attached thing'. he asked if we cud go with the flow and i agreed. so from this i took it that all was ok & thought no more of it. and now im getting the silent treatment again? im at a loss here..dont know what to think.

That says it all op. He stated he doesnt want one thing or the other. Plus he is ignoring you.
Just move onto the next guy op. Personally this sounds like a round about way of telling you he doesnt want anything. Rather than just being upfront.

Anyone says they dont know what they want ... or suddenly ignore you .... you know whats really going on.