Should I go for it?

LegacyUser

Going anonymous for this one..

I'm living with a friend of mine from college and I think that we are both starting to feel a little more, well I definitely am..

We were just friends but for the last month or so we've become closer, we're constantly texting, flirting, even when were sitting watching television she holds my hand, recently we've even started watching DVDs in my room and talking for hours afterwards..

My question is, should I go for something more or just be content with her friendship? I've no real interest in other girls and I know she has stopped seeing the guy she was with...

I don't want to lose her as a friend as I do value her that way but I do think there could be more....

So to put it like this, is it better to have loved and lost than to have not tried at all?

Ickle Magoo

When does your lease come up?

Remember you are going to have to share a house together which not only makes any kind of relationship is going to be seriously full-on, no getting away from each other, no privacy stuff it also means if you have a brief relationship and then it all goes horribly wrong there is no where to retreat to.

Proceed with caution....or even with alternative living arrangements in mind would be my advice.

All the best

Niranja

Firstly, you sound like a lovely, genuine bloke who wants to do everything by the book. Most guys would have probably tried it on with this girl by now but you have waited and are seeking advice. I think that shows a sound mind.

However, I find it a bit strange that she holds your hand but nothing more. I have male friends who I link arms with and can talk to for hours but that's it - there is nothing there. To me its just genuine affection for a friend i care about. I think this girl may see you as that kind of friend.

Hopefully i'm wrong if you like her badly but i do think you should tread carefully. Hope it all works out for you.

LegacyUser

Hi, firstly thanks for the replies.

The lease is up in May and we'll both be moving home, 2 hours apart so I think if something is to happen it will happen before then.

Niranja, thanks for the info, maybe I should have been more clear, we've kissed once, but we put a stop to it ourselves for the, were friends, we live together, don't want things to become awkward reasons. Back then it was a physical thing but we've become much closer since. I think from just talking to her, there are signs she wants it too but we don't want to ruin things for above reasons. I know she has given me enough signs that if I didn't care about the friendship we have so much I would have kissed her again. I think we are both just nervous about the what ifs! Sorry if it feels like I'm disregarding your advice, I really don't mean to, just i feel that there are signs there.

whitehallp

Yes. Why not. Wait for a while if you like to see if the mood is genuinely there. Then kiss her. It could be that she is just affectionate friend type but you'll only wreck your head trying to figure out if this is the case. Life's too short. Could go wrong but if it does just prepare yourself to quickly handle it in a a mature fashion and minimise any negative vibes. You're adults, anything else could happen and you may miss your chance..:D

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