How do i deal with a work colleague's comments towards me?

John400

Looking for opinions.

I was in work about three weeks ago and a couple of my foreign work colleague's were messing about with some tape and shrinkwrap which they had made into a football and kicked towards my desk when i was busy.

This messing about had been going on for a while and finally i had a bit of a go at them. I told them that i wasn't putting up with it at all. They avoided me at work.

I then attended my work Christmas party last Friday night and one of the guys who was messing about asked me sarcastically how many drinks i had..i told him and he replied to me 'wow...you are just one crazy guy' again being incredibly smart towards me.

I'm single and he then asked me why i wasn't married!!!...'you don't have a wife..what's wrong with you?' I was astonished. I told him nicely that i didn't realise that he was arranging my life and walked away from the situation.

A couple of my friends had told me that he was obviously looking to get a recation from me and i did the right thing by keeping calm and walking away.

Do you think i did the right thing? As this guy is now begining to turn into a bit of an a***hole towards me.

tinkerbell

If you're dealing with an idiot at work, then the only advice I can offer is only speak to them if it relates to work, do not socialise with them, do not engage in chatter about personal lives, etc. He'll get bored and stop bugging you.

Oh and you did the right thing in walking away - that moron doesn't deserve your time.

kjl

Well he was being an a$$hole to you because you were being an a$$hole to him. He had a few drinks and was manning up to you because of the football thing. I can't even understand why this is a issue for you OP

Ickle Magoo

Are you his boss or his colleague? Having a go at a peer about something silly like them mucking about around you is never going to endear you to your co-workers, it sounds like his nose was put out of joint at you having a go and with a bit of dutch courage and some mates behind him he had the guts to do a bit of playground pigtail pulling.

You did the right thing ignoring him, just keep your distance from now on and if anyone is mucking about or slacking off around you, try to resist being the bossy parental one and telling them to stop because that tends to rub people up the wrong way and needlessly create situations.

All the best

Curry Addict

sounds like u might be a little detached at work. this came come across as negative to you co workers. while it is perfectly ok to do this, people read into things and in a work setting, devoid of joy, its amplified. being social in work, has is place, in the balance that most peopel prefer.

LegacyUser

First of all this guy sounds like a bit of a idiot to try escalate tension in the work place, then again it might of been a good idea to avoid "having a go" at colleagues (best to be direct but polite).

First of all, do not provoke any further conflict. You are in a work place and ingauging in this type of behaviour will only lead to eventual disciplinary action.

If he has a go at you again, ignore him. If he persists, ask him to stop (assertviely, not aggressively), if he does not, then go to a manager etc.

There are always messers about in work, if it bothers you, then you should just ignore it as these guys tend to be drummed out.