Family Mess...

LegacyUser

Hi guys,

Just looking for a bit of advice before I loose the plot! I am currently in my 4rd year in college and work part time to tie me over, I still live at home and dont ask for alot of money but sometimes I get short so my Dad buys me college books etc when needed. This is no problem.

My sister recently came home from travelling, she'd been away two years. Too put it simply we never got along, I love her and sometimes have a laugh but she is so immature (she is older than me). She tormented me when we were younger and done some really nasty stuff so when she went away I was happy and relieved. While she was away I got really excited about her coming home, thinking she may of changed, that we could finally get on. This never happened She is completely stirring everything in the house up. For 2 years it was peaceful and her first weekend she was acting like a lunatic, drunk, blarring music, called me a c*nt etc. She has no money, no job, no leaving cert. She is 27! The way she talks to my mam is a disgrace, she leaves her mess eveywhere and is just being an a**hole. She has no money so if bumming of my mam and dad and right now cant support her not that should have to!

Christmas is so close and I cant stand living her. She saunders around like she owns the place. And talking to her wont help like I said she is immature and has this anger inside. Since coming home she has seen her friends twice but not since and I cant be sure but they may of fallen out. Her life is a complete mess.

I am torn. I cant stand loving her because she is a nightmare but at the same time worried because she has no prospects and no hope.

I am lost as to what to do.

Its all a mess

Thanks

The_Conductor

Ultimately, while your parents may recognise that she and her life are a mess- she is still their daughter too, and they will do anything they possibly can to try to help her.

Its very hard to put up with someone acting up like this- however, its not up to you to lay down the letter of the law. You are still living at home yourself- you do not have the right to try to take her to task.

You're in 4th year, you're nearly at the final hurdle- I'd suggest biting your tongue, do your best to not rock the boat- and as soon as possible, getting your own place.

One thing that you will learn is small doses of people you're not too fond of- works quite well. Living with someone is an entirely different story however......

Zeouterlimits

Is she just staying for Christmas before leaving again? If so I too would try to minimise the ruffling.
I'd still discuss it with your parents, at least broaching the subject, as they seem to deserve better.