Sex Advice Needed

LegacyUser

Hi all,

Regular user but going unreg for this.

Basically, my girlfriend wants us to try anal. She asks me to do it that way every time we have sex. The problem is that I can't get past the idea that it is (without trying to sound too Father Tedesque) dirty and unnatural.

I realise that this is my hang-up and that anal sex is something people do all the time but it's really starting to bug me that I can't give my girlfriend what she wants.

Can people give me some advice as to what to do?

Thanks,

Trick of the Tail

There are many guys who would love to be in your shoes! (Not with your girlfriend, of course!)

As with anything sexual, you should only do it if you're comfortable with it. But if she likes it and wants it, and you can go with it, you'll probably have a great time!

Anal can be very good. Without getting specific, tightness is a thing. But it can hurt the girl initially until she relaxes though, so again both should be comfortable with it.

But if you're worried about the 'dirtyness' why not suggest that you and she have a shower together first, and wash each other's 'intimate' areas?

If you can get used to the idea it may also make you and she feel very close, sexually, because you've broken a taboo together.


Also use lots of lube.

Lots.

A.

Wompa1

Sex Help Please wrote: »

Hi all,

Regular user but going unreg for this.

Basically, my girlfriend wants us to try anal. She asks me to do it that way every time we have sex. The problem is that I can't get past the idea that it is (without trying to sound too Father Tedesque) dirty and unnatural.

I realise that this is my hang-up and that anal sex is something people do all the time but it's really starting to bug me that I can't give my girlfriend what she wants.

Can people give me some advice as to what to do?

Thanks,

I hear ya, there's something about the idea of sticking it up there that just puts me off completely. Has she done it before or is she just curious? If she's just curious I'd nearly say it do it the once for the experience and by the sounds of things she won't want it again :P

LegacyUser

Wompa1 wrote: »

Has she done it before or is she just curious?

She's done it before. And she doesn't get why I'm reluctant as her exes have all been so grateful.

prinz

If you don't want to. Then don't. You should be comfortable with anything going on between you. If it doesn't do it for you, it's not your problem.

S23

I'll give you the same advice I'd give if a woman was asking. Don't do it if you're not comfortable with it.

Don't just 'give it a try' if you don't want to. Don't do it just to make your partner happy. Don't get pressured into it (moreso because it's something lads are 'supposed' to be into)

You should only ever engaged in something both partners are happy with. It's as simple as that.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies guys. I feel a bit better now.