cremation/headstone

casio4

This could be in the wrong section feel free to move it if it is. Myself and my husband have been talking about our funerals and cant seem to decide if cremation is the way to go or not, we are all for it but would like a headstone or something with our names on it (my husband has always enjoyed walking around graveyards and reading the headstones) I just feel it is a bit expensive to buy a grave just for the ashes. What have other people done that have had a relative cremated after spreading there ashes is there any reminder of them written anywhere?

Ickle Magoo

I've moved your post to PI as I don't think the bereavement forum is the appropriate platform to ask questions about funerary planning.

Think you'll get more of a response here, anyway.

Ickle.

LegacyUser

Hi casio4, there are a few options for the ashes and there'll be even more down the line as cremation gets more common in this country. Some of the graveyards now have walls of remembrance, which is basically a wall which you can put your urn with your partners urn if you wish, and some other pieces for instance your rings, prayers, photos. The door to your section on the wall is like a headstone, marble/stone with your names engraved and people can go to visit it. So you can definitely go for an option like that. If you are not religious, I know one of the crematoriums is planning a wall of remembrance on their own site, which is by the sea - I think this is a good idea as well.

tenchi-fan

I think gravestone is the way to go. The plot can cost anywhere from €200 to €5000 depending on the cemetery. A headstone will cost another €1000.

There's not much difference in the price of a burial or cremation in Ireland apart from the cost of the plot/headstone and hearse, but from what I gather cremation can be expensive.

wealthyman

casio4 wrote: »

This could be in the wrong section feel free to move it if it is. Myself and my husband have been talking about our funerals and cant seem to decide if cremation is the way to go or not, we are all for it but would like a headstone or something with our names on it (my husband has always enjoyed walking around graveyards and reading the headstones) I just feel it is a bit expensive to buy a grave just for the ashes. What have other people done that have had a relative cremated after spreading there ashes is there any reminder of them written anywhere?

Are you for real? You won't folk out on a headstone which will remember you long after your gone even if you are not buried under it? You sound like a mean stingy person if that is the case.

casio4

I get what you are saying but we are neither mean or stingy I just know money is tight as it is and when one of us goes the other will struggle to pay the funeral bill, I didn't realise cremation is as dear as buying a grave and headstone. I would love to buy the grave today if they would let me but they wont.

tenchi-fan

casio4 wrote: »

I get what you are saying but we are neither mean or stingy I just know money is tight as it is and when one of us goes the other will struggle to pay the funeral bill, I didn't realise cremation is as dear as buying a grave and headstone. I would love to buy the grave today if they would let me but they wont.

What age are you, exactly?
Consider this plan: http://www.irishlife.ie/lifecover/50+EasyCover.html , or perhaps a cheaper decreasing term life cover policy and a separate savings account.

When one of you dies, the other can purchase a double plot leaving a lower cost to your estate.

People only die once and you have all your life to get some money together for a decent send off.

casio4

tenchi-fan wrote: »

What age are you, exactly?
Consider this plan: http://www.irishlife.ie/lifecover/50+EasyCover.html , or perhaps a cheaper decreasing term life cover policy and a separate savings account.

When one of you dies, the other can purchase a double plot leaving a lower cost to your estate.

People only die once and you have all your life to get some money together for a decent send off.

thanks for that, I don't want to say my age but yeah you have me thinking now about trying to put a bit by

Ickle Magoo

wealthyman infracted, don't call other posters names please.

Do take the time to read the forum rules in the charter.

Many thanks

Ickle

Beruthiel

There's a new place in Co. Wexford where you can have a natural burial of your choice with a tree planted in your honour. It's a nice idea.

rusty999

tenchi-fan wrote: »

I think gravestone is the way to go. The plot can cost anywhere from €200 to €5000 depending on the cemetery. A headstone will cost another €1000.

There's not much difference in the price of a burial or cremation in Ireland apart from the cost of the plot/headstone and hearse, but from what I gather cremation can be expensive.

Hi, when you say it costs around 1000 for a headstone would that be about average or what type would that be ---ie stone or marble ?
My sister who lives in England has asked me to have a look for a headstone for her husbands grave--he is buried in Ireland

Also , does anyone know if the companies from Northern Ireland are more competitive price wise as she doesnt have a lot of money
Thanks
Rusty

Kablamo!

We buried my father in August 09 but luckily we had already purchased a plot some years prior. For the rest of the 'trimmings', the funeral bill ended up at €7,400 which is quite a blow to the old finances.
I don't know about the cost of cremation, but, I always like seeing plaques on benches. So maybe that could be an option? Scatter your ashes and pay how ever much to have a bench in your names, in a place that means something to both of you?