Should i have called rather than texted ??

caomhino

Hi, Met a girl in a bar two weekends ago got on great with her, chatting , laughing all night. End of the night, she gave me her number and said we'd met up for a drink shortly. We were texting all week and i suggested we'd meet up for a drink last weekend. Anyway with the bad weather and all it didn't work but she said she'd text later in the week to arrange a drink. ...Didn't hear from her at all during the week, i laid off as she said she text me, so texted her thursday and called her friday and left a voicemail....no response.

Just wondering, have i blown it by not calling her earlier ? should i have called rather than texted or is it just a case that she's no interest ?

John400

Mate, seriously i wouldn't panic over this situation at all. You said that you've only just met her a couple of weeks ago.

With the weather the way it was last week, your proposed date with her was effectively out of yours and her's control. Nothing could be done about that one.

If she wasn't interested in you she most certainly wouldn't have given you her number in the first place and she most certainly wouldn't have been texting you recently.

People have other stuff, private and otherwise going on in their lives so she could well have a legitimate reason why she hasn't contacted you over the past couple of days.

You seem to be to be worrying a bit too much and i wouldn't fret because she hasn't been negative towards you so far.

I would wait and see what happens in the meantime and if you don't hear anything i'd contact her maybe mid-week next week. If you do get to talk to her i'd ask her if and then when she's available to out go, this will then give you a better idea of where you stand and a good idea of the time-frame to go out with her.

whatsamsn

It doesnt matter if you called or text. If a person is interested in you they reply back.

Seeing as how she didnt contact you for days, you left the voice mail on thursday and it now being Saturday shes clearly not interested. Which means to hell with her.

metrovelvet

From reading PI and being in Ireland, I have concluded that Vegas rules apply when it comes to the pub.

Katgurl

Most likely explanation -

She was interested and now she's not. The reasons for this turnabout have, almost certainly, nothing to do with you. You don't have a clue what is going on with her outside of the meeting you had with her.

Possible but unlikely -

she's lost her phone / trapped in house with no charger etc. There's nothing you can do about this, she will find way to contact you eventually

Either way, there's nothing you can do now so stop wrecking your head about a girl you barely know or wondering if it was something you did. It wasn't.

ShagNastii

Yep I'd agree. The best way to see it is the ball is in her court now, she obiviously knows you are interested. If she calls, she calls. If she doesn't, she doesn't. Good luck though.

John400

whatsamsn wrote: »

Seeing as how she didnt contact you for days, you left the voice mail on thursday and it now being Saturday shes clearly not interested. Which means to hell with her.

Not necessarily.

Believe me people can have stuff going on in their lives over the course of two to three days where they're unable to contact people.

Her not calling is not necessarily a negative response to this guy. All he has to do is contact her this week, if she ignores him or gives him the cold shoulder that's her problem and he can move on.

whatsamsn

I understand what you are saying and you could be right. But I find giving someone the benefit of the doubt while going against whats known isnt the best thing to do

Lets be honest, how many times when a person ignores contact is genuinely due to a person being "busy" ... Sure I've gotten texts from genuinely busy women letting me know why they mightnt contact me that particular week. But the genuine ones tag it off when they will be free etc. Op hasnt even got any text saying so.

FoxT

If you don't hear from her, call her again Tuesday or Wednesday. Don't leave a message, wait til she picks up. Tell her you contacted her last week but might have missed her reply, & is she interested in meeting again?

If not, c'est la vie. At least you know the score.

Crea

Female here.
Do not call her again. You have sent her a text and voicemail so she has 2 things to reply to and hasn't done so yet. Give it til next Thurs and then delete her number off the phone.
The ball is in her court. If you call again you'll just look needy.
You can "if" away about how things could have gone differently. Generally i'd prefer a phone call than a text if I haven't seen a person for a week (you kinda forget the personal rapport with someone new) and if someone is changing/cancelling plans it annoys me when they just text.

Mark27

Do NOT call her again. You have sent her a txt and left her a voicemail. Now its up to her. Forget what FoxT said, if you do that youre going to look like some kind of desperado and you dont want that

mrpink6789

find out where she lives and visit her house....preferably really late at like 3am or something :P

no seriously man don't call her. you made contact and showed you were keen. excessive contacting will just make her think you are too full on, women love the chase, especially in the early stages. leave it be, if it is meant to be she will contact you.

weatherguy

Forget about that comment: " women love the chase in the early stages". Rubbish. You aren't into playing games with her. You like her and would like to see her again.So, ring her again. Be up front. Don't be sitting there watching the time and counting the days since you last left a message for her.Don't leave her another message if she doesn't pick up.When she does just tell her you called last week and left her a message, but you aren't sure if she received ot or not. And then just tell her you enjoyed her company and wonder if she would like to meet for a drink with you before Christmas.You will know straight away from her immediate response if she is interested or not.Either way you will know where you stand.Good luck!!