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  • 04-12-2010 7:22pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi, I'm 27, recently split up with OH of 3yrs. Stupidly, my life revolved around him& work to the extent that I don't know many people here, and those that I do, are happily attached. I should be getting out there, socialising, joining clubs ect, but I just can't bring myself to. I'm actually allergic to the thought of platitudes, pub banter, organised activities- basically, meeting new people, full stop. Leading to antisocial weekends of sitting in watching TV, or being by myself. This isn't exactly healthy& my worry is, years could go by like this, with my chances of ever meeting anyone new dwinding away. How do I get past the procrastination/lack of interest? I'm otherwise generally sociable, but don't know what my first steps should be to get back into that zone.


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  • #2
    Canluum
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 189 ✭✭Canluum


    notinthezone wrote: »
    How do I get past the procrastination/lack of interest?
    There's no complicated trick. You just do it. Fake it til you make it. It's like going to the gym... people hate the idea of doing it, it's too much like work. Start making yourself go 2-3 times a week and soon you'll start trying to fit it in in more places.


    If you want to be social and outgoing then be social and outgoing. But do it because that's what you want to do.

    If your motivation is solely to meet a romantic partner then join OKcupid or something


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