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  • 03-12-2010 8:12pm
    #1
    ggrr1970
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37 ✭


    Am going out with very cool and very smart girl. She has never had an orgasm. She loves her sex and is very active. I have read articles which detail how very intelligent women can find it difficult to reach orgasm.
    Am asking the intelligent female boarders out there for advice. I am very open to any suggestions. Don't want this to become a major issue as my girl is happy with things as they are but would love to get her to the level of enjoyment she gives me.
    Pls help a guy out!!


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  • #2
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,044 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    She has to learn how to make it happen for her self.


  • #3
    ggrr1970
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37 ✭ggrr1970


    Prob should have given more info. She gets herself to 90% but quits before the big finale. As I said, she really enjoys whats happening but something stops her from going over the final hurdle.
    I'm not going to let this become a major issue because it's not for her. I just want to get her off.


  • #4
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    ggrr1970 wrote: »
    I have read articles which detail how very intelligent women can find it difficult to reach orgasm.

    I'd be intrigued by where you found these articles and who exactly wrote them. Don't you think there may be a hint of sweeping generalisation about them?

    I'd consider myself of above average intelligence and thankfully am more than orgasmic thanks ;)

    I agree with Thaedyal. It's impossible to show and guide someone else how to make you orgasm if you've never managed it by yourself.

    I get the impression you are both pretty young. Encourage her to spend more time masturabing and exploring her own body and it will come naturally from there.... then she'll be in a better position to guide you and indicate to you what works and what doesn't and when she knows she's on the brink of coming.


  • #5
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    ggrr1970 wrote: »
    Prob should have given more info. She gets herself to 90% but quits before the big finale. As I said, she really enjoys whats happening but something stops her from going over the final hurdle.
    I'm not going to let this become a major issue because it's not for her. I just want to get her off.

    Depends if she is using sex toys or her fingers, the amount of lubrication she is producing/using, how relaxed/stressed she is etc. What can happen is that on sustained stimulation she is becoming HYPER sensitive and the clitoris is almost too sensitive too touch. If that's the case she simply needs to alter pressure/touch and she can still bring herself off.

    If it's not due to her being overly-sensitive then I should imagine its probably that she simply needs to relax more and let it happen. She really shouldn't be stressing about it, she'll LOVE IT when it happens and then she'll want orgasms all the time :D


  • #6
    ggrr1970
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37 ✭ggrr1970


    Tbh, we are both far from young. 30+. From my own experience, I have had a couple of very intelligent girlfriends and they have been 'harder' to get to orgasm. Not saying it's absolute. Just saying.
    What I really want to know is, if you were such a girl, how would you feel about your guy introducing a toy into proceedings? Christmas not being an issue of course...


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  • #7
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    ggrr1970 wrote: »
    What I really want to know is, if you were such a girl, how would you feel about your guy introducing a toy into proceedings? ..

    I'd be delighted. Bring it up next time you're together and ask her how she'd feel about it rather than just producing one mid-thrust though maybe.


  • #8
    ggrr1970
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37 ✭ggrr1970


    p.s. Miss Fluff. Totally happy you are a smart girl who can get herself off. I'm a giving guy who just wants his girl to achieve what you've done. She's a total babe who I plan on marrying next year.


  • #9
    ted1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,106 ✭✭✭✭ted1


    it sounds like she is a clever girl when likes to know exactly what is going on and to be in total control of her being. And as such is unprepared to give in to being over powered by an orgasam. I know my lady losses all control of her body when she climaxes. She always had small orgasms however as we got used to each other she learnt to go and let her body take over. She know enjoys explosive orgasms that lets her shaking for a good while after. So i guess you should keep her reassured and encourage her to let her body take over her mind.


  • #10
    miec
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 856 ✭✭✭miec


    something stops her from going over the final hurdle.

    Hi Op, that 'something' is herself, she stops herself from coming and there is very little, if anything, that you can do to overcome it, she has to get there herself. My only advise is don't mention orgasms anymore, just enjoy the fact she enjoys, she will come when she is relaxed.


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