What to do

purejuice

Well firstly sorry if I babble on but looking for some advice or advice from someone that has been in the same situation. Been for my partner for over 2 years now and we live together, the relationship was great at the start, very loving romantic and kind person who like me had been hurt in the past. The past 6 months have been the worst, firstly I lost my job then had an operation and of course with only one wage and me getting social welfare the problems started, we have made love twice in these 6 months, he drinks everyday in the pub and smokes weed as well then comes home and falls asleep normally by 7pm, i understand he gets up very early in the mornings for work so would be tired but he wont make any effort, he told me last month I had to leave after an arguement saying he couldnt live with me anymore due to feeling like he has no money and really said some nasty things about me not being able to hold a job down, I have had a few part time jobs but me leaving wasnt my fault. He has enough to go the pub every day and I put all mine into the rent etc and never buy myself anything, i got myself full time work the day after the arguement which I had to laugh about and things were a little better between us, without going into detail I dont think this job will last that long due to what the staff have been telling me that the boss just lets people go when he feels like it and if this happens who's to say he wont want me to leave again. He does tell me he loves me and vice versa but everyday is like were two housemates rather than being in a relationship. I feel we have drifted apart in so many ways and if we have the same days off he seems to make excuses to go out (pub again) and the arguements start again. Im crying most days cause I love this guy very much and all I want is to have fun and be like we was but it falls on deaf ears. I wanted to talk today but he made excuses again so I let him know it was all over as I wanted to be in a relationship and was not getting what I needed from him, to which I got no reply from. I do so much want this to work but really I want to know if there is a future for us. Thanks :mad:

Canluum

Sounds like you answered your own questions. Hope it works out for you.




If you decide to go back insist on relationship counseling.