My Boyfriends cruel friends

LegacyUser

Hey,

I'm so hurt and upset, My Boyfriends friends are real lads and love slagging everyone, The other night they said that I had a hairy lip and kept going on that I used to be a man and I should get out the immac and I should be kept warm now I'm sporting a Ronnie!

Tonight my Boyfriend lost his phone in the house, he used my phone to call it to find it, I picked up his phone and my name on the caller I.D was "Ronnie"!!!! I got so upset and the lads where rolling around the couch pissing themselves laughing.

My boyfriend swears the lads changed the name in his phone. I hate him now and feel so ugly! Should I break up with him?

topdec

That depends,,What did your boyfriend say to his "friends" when they were saying that to you?.My friends would always give a bit of a slagging to my girlfriends but harmless slagging nothing that personal and if it did get that personal i would definitely tell them to stop and apologize to her.Maybe they did change the name on his phone and hide it just to see your reaction but if he cared about your feelings he should have stuck up for you and had words with them.

StillWaters

They sound like idiots, and if your boyfriend did not tell them to stop when they were slagging/belittling you, then yes, judge him by the company he keeps, and dump him.

kjl

They sound like absolute d%ckheads, even if I wasn't your boyfriend I would put a stop to that the fact that you boyfriend didn't either shows that a) he is a week person that can't stand up to people pretending to be his friends, or b) he too is a di$khead in which case you should break up with him. Talk to him and try and poker out which person he is. As him questions like, does he find it amusing when his friends say that, if he shows even the slightest bit of laughter or smiling or asking you to take it in good nature then leave him instantly.

This particular insult is an absolutely horrible one to give a girl, and every guys knows this.

tenchi-fan

It's very bad form. They sound very immature. If your bf didn't stick up for you you should definitely dump him.

Don' take this personally either, but I know a few girls who sported a bit of upper lip fluff (often happens to girls in their teens). I have to say, no matter what company i kept from idiotic school friends to business professionals... it's always commented on, just usually not to the girl's face.

So take what you can from the bad situation. Find a new boyfriend and maybe consider a trip to the beauticians if what they were saying is true. If it's not true you should just keep better company really.

jimmycrackcorm

cruel-boyfreind wrote: »

My boyfriend swears the lads changed the name in his phone. I hate him now and feel so ugly! Should I break up with him?

If you and your BF are < 20 years old then yes because he is taking the piss.

dan_d

OP, how did your boyfriend react when they said this?

To be honest - knowing lads - they probably changed your name in his phone, especially if they find it so hilarious. I only hope that you are all about 17, because that kind of dumb behaviour is totally immature and pathetic. I would hope most lads would be through it by that time in their lives, but of course there are those who are slow developers. (course if you told them that, it would offend their dignity)

If your boyfriend is not sticking up for you, then yes, I'd break up with him.Simple as, I'm afraid.

(as an aside, crap like this is the reason I would never send any daughters I have to a mixed secondary school - there's enough crap going on in teenager's lives without having to deal with that sort of rubbish.No comments needed, just voicing an opinion)

Handsome Bob

cruel-boyfreind wrote: »

Tonight my Boyfriend lost his phone in the house, he used my phone to call it to find it, I picked up his phone and my name on the caller I.D was "Ronnie"!!!! I got so upset and the lads where rolling around the couch pissing themselves laughing.

They definitely nicked the phone and changed your name on it IMO. But your boyfriend should still tell them to pipe down, this is the kind of behaviour you'd expect from young teenagers never mind older teens.

Zen65

cruel-boyfreind wrote: »

I hate him now and feel so ugly! Should I break up with him?

If it's any comfort, even immature men are only likely to slag you in this way if it's absolutely untrue. Young men rarely would have the courage to pass this comment on a woman if she really did have a hairy lip. You should not feel ugly because of this slagging, and you have every right to expect your bf to stand up for you.

It is very possible that he is unfortunate to have idiot friends, and you could give him the benefit of the doubt provided he clearly distanced himself from them in terms of his behaviour. If you opt to stay with him, make it clear you don't want to meet his friends / housemates again when you go out together.


Be at peace,

Z

curlzy

First of all OP, BIG HUG, that is a lousy way to be treated by your OH's friends. I really would break up with him if I were you. They weren't taking the piss, taking the piss would have been MAYBE having one small joke (even then I wouldn't be impressed) but it sounds like they were getting a kick out of humiliating you. The fact your boyfriend didn't tear them a new one make's me think he's much more interested in them than looking after you. Defo dumpsville for him, I'd say. You can defo do better. Also they sound like such tossers, if that's all they could come up with then you must be one hot chicky, try to take it as a compliment that that was all they could come up with

On a side note: If you feel that you have unwanted hair on your lip you can get it lasered, it's not expensive and it's permanent. I have about 5 teeny tiny hairs on either side of my upper lip, probably invisable to everyone but myself, I'm getting it lasered as soon as I can be arsed getting to a beautician. But I stress, don't do this unless it's what you want to!!!

Wompa1

Zen65 wrote: »

If it's any comfort, even immature men are only likely to slag you in this way if it's absolutely untrue. Young men rarely would have the courage to pass this comment on a woman if she really did have a hairy lip. You should not feel ugly because of this slagging, and you have every right to expect your bf to stand up for you.

It is very possible that he is unfortunate to have idiot friends, and you could give him the benefit of the doubt provided he clearly distanced himself from them in terms of his behaviour. If you opt to stay with him, make it clear you don't want to meet his friends / housemates again when you go out together.


Be at peace,

Z

If these are close friends of his and he spends alot of time with them you should be careful...I wouldn't be a close friend with somebody I didn't have stuff in common with. Your fella is most likely a lad and so that will probably dictate alot of his future actions towards you. Lads are morons.

midlandsmissus

Zen65 wrote: »

If it's any comfort, even immature men are only likely to slag you in this way if it's absolutely untrue. Young men rarely would have the courage to pass this comment on a woman if she really did have a hairy lip. You should not feel ugly because of this slagging, and you have every right to expect your bf to stand up for you.

It is very possible that he is unfortunate to have idiot friends, and you could give him the benefit of the doubt provided he clearly distanced himself from them in terms of his behaviour. If you opt to stay with him, make it clear you don't want to meet his friends / housemates again when you go out together.


Be at peace,

Z

I've had a guy say this to me when I started seeing him. He said "you're into your ronnies". Wanker! Really upset me. Worst thing you can say to a girl. And he was 26!

I've this most unfortunate thing where I have no hair there at all, but I've an awful green skin tone around my mouth, that I just can't get rid of. I think some dark haired girls just have it. bane of my life.

This is literally the most insulting thing u could say to a girl. i would dump his ass fast if he doesn't stick up for you.

Loopsie

Make a fool of him in front of his precious friends. If they start slagging you in front of him again stand up loook him in the eye, say 'do u have nothing to say?' if his response is crap..........walk out the door and just before you leave turn around and say 'listen dont call me again and oh yeah i lied it doesnt happen to everyone and it is a big deal '

lazygal

These guys sound about 12 and your boyfriend is a bit of a loser for hanging out with such idiots.

curlzy

Loopsie wrote: »

Make a fool of him in front of his precious friends. If they start slagging you in front of him again stand up loook him in the eye, say 'do u have nothing to say?' if his response is crap..........walk out the door and just before you leave turn around and say 'listen dont call me again and oh yeah i lied it doesnt happen to everyone and it is a big deal '

:D:D Oh god Loopsie you're a genius!!!! That's brilliant, do that OP!!!!

Wompa1

curlzy wrote: »

:D:D Oh god Loopsie you're a genius!!!! That's brilliant, do that OP!!!!

Don't do it, I don't like or watch Friends and I even know that as a reference. They'll see through it and think you're just immature yourself. Tell him you can do better than a p*ssy like him..much more cutting to a "lad"