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Cutting Contact

  • 30-11-2010 1:59pm
    #1
    miss.piggy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 251 ✭✭


    Is cutting contact completely the only way to figure out if someone really loves you and will be with you?
    I have been seeing someone for 14months now and because of reasons which I won't go in to here there are a number of very big barriers to us being together as a proper couple. He has more barriers in his way than I do and needs to sort things out before he can be with me properly. I understand this. However he doesn't know if it will be possible for us to be together at all if things do not work out as he wants.
    I am at the end of my tether over it all and think that the only way is for me to cut all contact with him (even though it will kill me to do this) and I am hoping that he will realise he can't do without me and be with me.
    What do ye think?
    He realises that we have to do something as we are both so stressed.


Comments

  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    It sound as if you have a lot to get thru if you both want to be together but I dont understand why he would say you might not be able to be together unless everything goes as he plans!!! It certainly sounds like you are more invested in the relationship.

    Is it possible that he is suffering from the having his cake and eating it syndrome? If you give him an ultimatum you will at least find out if he is serious and one way or another you will know where you stand.


  • #3
    seenitall
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,724 ✭✭✭seenitall


    Perhaps I am making a big assumption here, but it reads to me like he is attached and you have been his bit on the side, so to speak.

    If that is the case, cutting contact definitely IS the way to go.

    If it's not the case, just disregard my post. :)

    Best wishes.


  • #4
    TitoPuente
    Closed Accounts Posts: 549 ✭✭✭TitoPuente


    I suppose the question begs - which one of you is pushing the other away?


  • #5
    curlzy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,708 ✭✭✭curlzy


    If you are his bit on the side then defo cut contact. If he's married and stringing you along with the "I'm going to leave my wife" line then you should google that sentence and see the amount of pathetic fools that have wasted YEARS waiting for it to happen, seriously if that's the obstacle then just cut contact now because at the end of the day what's to stop him cheating on you? I don't think that your relationship will ever be healthy because you've both proven you'rer untrustworthy from the start. So yeah cut contact and move on, but not with a view to getting him back more with a view to finding a nice unattached man to start a healthy relationship with.

    p.s. If this isn't the crux of your problem please completely disregard everything above.


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