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Friends Growing Apart

  • 29-11-2010 11:31pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    So recently since the middle of last year I feel rather out of touch with my friends. I'm an 18y/o male still in school, doing my exams this year. I go to school each day in the city, a 20 minute bus drive from my own town. All of my mates in school live inside in the city.



    Now heres my problem. I've felt kind of excluded because theyre always hanging out together outside of school and I'm just left out. I know this may seem trivial compared to the other problems here but it's really been bugging me. It's like we've grown apart. Especially over the summer. They've formed their own individual bonds and I'm just the left over piece. Don't get me wrong I still get along with them have and have a bit of craic with them but its not as good as it used to be.



    I feel maybe I have outgrown them after 6 years. I cannot wait to move away for college. Does it get better.? I really hope I can meet a best friend again and close friends. I havn't really had one since 3rd year and before that I had a best friend all through primary school that I unfortunately lost touch with because of different secondary schools.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    ATaLOSS wrote: »
    I cannot wait to move away for college. Does it get better.?

    YES. YES IT DOES.

    You have no idea how much better. Go to college with an open mind and attitude and you'll make the best friends of your life there. Never again in life will you have an opportunity to socialise with thousands of people your own age... to join a club or society full of your peers who share the exact same interests as you do.

    And you'll stay in touch with them too.... I made the best friends of my life in college (left on '05) and I still chat with them and visit regularly.

    And as for the hick tossers in the 'cool gang' in secondary school... I haven't seen them since I left and don't give a rats ass how they are doing and if I ever want to find out I'll just go down to Topaz and ask them while they pump my gas.


  • #3
    cafecolour
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    Yeah, college is a completely different world, and you generally meet a lot of new people. A lot of people just lose touch with most of their school friends in college anyway.

    Your friends now aren't intentionally excluding you, it's just an unavoidable facet of geography - they see each other a lot more (as you live at home) and have had a lot more shared experiences.

    In college, you'll be living near most the other students, there's a bevy of clubs and groups to join, everyone's new and looking to meet new people, there's a much broader assortment of like-minded folks to click with.


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