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Falling Out With People

  • 28-11-2010 3:17pm
    #1
    Gerry Manders
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 31 ✭


    Ive had about two groups of important friends in my entire life and I fell out with them. Ive become a recluse the past 5 years and b4 that I was pretty popular. I think this is my major flaw but I cant do anything about it and ive changed alot becasue of it. I need advice


Comments

  • #2
    whatsamsn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 911 ✭✭✭whatsamsn


    Friends and groups come and go over the course of our lives.
    Some we just loose touch with. Others we just grow out of or see their true colours.

    The problem is almost like a "balancing" act. As friends go, and if you dont make new ones it can quickly turn into having no social life!


    to get to the problem tho,
    how did you fall out with them?


  • #3
    Gerry Manders
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 31 ✭Gerry Manders


    i was involved in a court case wit my best mate. that was 4 years b4 we fell out. when i went to college they exploited that and held it against me. i feel they were just jealous that i went to college. i stopped talking to them but felt i came out worst of all


  • #4
    whatsamsn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 911 ✭✭✭whatsamsn


    If thats the way they are, it was best to stop talking to them.

    I say what has happened is that new social circles havent developed for you. Everyone goes through the same... friends come...friends go... if new friends arent made you can end up having no one sadly. Alot of people go through this at parts in their life.

    You have to expand your social circle. Anything you can do that makes you meet new people is the winning ticket (course, social club etc etc etc)

    Try to get out of the rut. Sadly its only up to you to do so. So start getting ideas :)


  • #5
    weatherguy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 92 ✭✭weatherguy


    Meet new people. Don't dwell on those former friends. They aren't worth it.
    We all move on in life and that means meeting new people, making new friends.
    It is what moulds us into who we are.
    I know meeting new people isn't as easy as I am making it sound here, but you know you meet people everyday of your life without realising it.
    Like when you go to the supermarket, the corner shop, the petrol station, the local pub, the person you pass by while walking.
    If you said hello to all of them and had a chat you immediately start expanding your group of people.
    I met a lovely junior doctor while walking, a Lithuanian lady while walking, a local girl working in the Spar shop. They all know me know and when we meet we stop for a chat. The Spar shop girl drinks in my local and we've had a few nights drinking together with her mates.
    You can join sports clubs, start talking to people in the pub, cafe whatever.
    Remember you are just as good as other people, you have opinions and experiences unique to you. Don't put yourself down.
    There is a poem that became a hit song in the 70s called Desiderata. You are a Child of the Universe. Google it and print it out and stick it on your wall. Recite it. It will make you feel a million dollars.


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