Dating younger women

LegacyUser

i am in my early 20s and seeing an 17 year old,is this wrong?.

sam34

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Zen65

hawkeye778 wrote: »

i am in my early 20s and seeing an 17 year old,is this wrong?.

Not wrong per se, but not a great match. You should be substantially more mature in your ways than they are.

Be at peace,

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whatsamsn

Wrong? No.

Risky? Depends on what you want (casual or relationship) If down the line you end up growing feelings for her then you could be in for some hurt. Girls of that age (and even upwards) tend to want to "explore".

pwd

Not wrong but possibly embarrassing if she turns up in her school uniform XD

tinkerbell

What exactly do you mean by "early 20s"? 20 or 24?

Canluum

There is nothing wrong with it.

There's a social stigma/taboo against it though. So be prepared to hear people grumble.

When it comes to age gaps and other relationships that are likely to be temporary... just make sure to "leave the person in better shape than you found them in." (Dan Savage quote).

Markiemarkso

It’s fine to date a younger girl, I met my girlfriend when she was 17, I was 25. We’re still together after 3 ½ years, I suppose what really helped is that her parents really like me, even though we didn’t know each other at all before hand.
Yes there are times when it feels as if there is a huge maturity gap, but it makes for an interesting and fun relationship.

LegacyUser

I'm 28... my lovely O/H of well over 2 years is 21.

This setup could wreck your head or it could be the best thing ever. i am very happy, personally speaking.

Legally, you're sound (as long as she's not lying about her age which is not at all beyond the realms of possibility for a so called 17YO and if that's the case and ye are sexually active you could be landing yourself in a world of hurt) but until she hits 20 (I personally found) it will raise eyebrows...... especially with her folks.

It depends on both of your personalities as well. She might want to out and get trashed at weekends as young 'uns often do... you might want to stay in with a cup of cocoa and watch Ryan Tubridy.

I would offer you the following advise:
- Don't mind the nay sayers. They are not important. Your / her happiness is, so it's definitely worth a shot from that point of view

- Be prepared to have to compromise on some stuff like going on a night out

Distorted

My friend met her ex-husband at 17 and he was 35, had a kid with him at 19 and split up by 21. He now blames her for ruining his life...

Anyway, your age gap isn't that bad but dating someone still at school when you're in your twenties is a bit ick. Maybe keep it low key and not too serious til she leaves school? Most girls that age are quite immature.

pwd

Apparently it is good for your health!



http://www.guardian.co.uk/science/2010/may/12/marrying-younger-man-woman-mortality

BCC4LYFE

its not whether shes too young its whether is she hot?

It's not wrong. If you're over 22 though I'd feel uncomfortable about it if I were you.

I am 32 and in a relationship with girls who are 30 and 24.

I read a good quote by someone here on boards that if you like someone because of their age then something is wrong. There are many people who target people because of their age which can not be healthy.

Do what is right for you both and ignore what anyone else judges you with.

curlzy

Hey OP, no it's not "wrong". Just remember that she's still really only a kid so take things at HER pace and don't manipulate her, it's very easy to manipulate a younger person so just be a gentleman and take things at her pace and listen to her wants. That would be my advise really.

xp90

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@xp90 - you seem to have gone on a bit of a trolling gig last night. Such comments are not tolerated in PI. Please take the time to read the forum charter.

dudara

LegacyUser

I am currently in a relationship with a 46 y.o Dublin guy since September and I am very happy in it. He is a good guy, devoted to his 2 kids (boys aged 15 and 6). My partner is seperated from his wife and 4 years ago he lost another son who was 8 in a traffic accident. The age difference for me is not a problem as it is common back home in Russia for a girl to date an older man. We consider older men to be much more mature and settled than younger men and the sex is quite good which makes it our relationship very compatible. OP if you feel comfortable and happy with it then that is the main thing.

johnnyvega86

hawkeye778 wrote: »

i am in my early 20s and seeing an 17 year old,is this wrong?.

If it feels good do it.

Josh_Calvert

17 is legal.Go for it.Plus they grow up hella fast these days.She's probably had more sex than you.I often find at that age they haven't learned they can be awful people and still get whatever they want and so in many respects end up being more mature than girls in their early to mid 20s....