Hi advice on love life

LegacyUser

Well

This I rented a room in a house owned by this guy he answered my add looking for some where. I am paying great low rent all bills included and love the house the room and have had great crack with the flatmate. He's pretty cool and been really helpfull on a various issues and clearly really likes me and we get on fab.

Then the heating broke and the flatmate started all this crack how are we going to stay warm I will have to pop into the bed with you!! I have an electric blanket. He rings and texts me quite often about this and that and the texts got a bit suggestive one night.

So I am going to a one bed apartment in canaries for christmas and say to everyone they are welcome to come along!! He is looking up flights and looks like he is coming on hols does that mean he wants to develop this relationship??

rainbow kirby

Moved from tLL to RI.

Canluum

There is only one thing certain... he wants to have sex with you.

How have you reacted to his suggestiveness? What do you want out of this? How would sleeping with him and only sleeping with him affect your relationship as housemates?

Whether he wants to "develop this relationship" (what relationship?) or wants a relationship from you cannot be determined from the information you've given.


I've slept with a flatmate before... but it was a few weeks before our lease was up. We were de-facto bf/gf, though without commitment for those few weeks. We continued to see eachother casually afterwards too.

whatsamsn

+1

he definielty wants to have sex with you. And as for a relationship. Who knows.

LegacyUser

I do like him and if he asked me on a date I would go and love it.

I had a bit of fun when he was suggestive to me I brought home a cake and left it in kitchen with a note on it saying eat me.

But when the texts got a bit suggestive i couldnt think of an answer so didnt reply

I just dont want to give up my lovely house and my great flatmate for a bit of hows your father. There is no one young here both over 40!!

Pebbles68

When I read your original post I thought I was reading a post from someone who had just moved out of home and maybe house sharing for the first time. You are both in your 40's !!! Come on girl, life's too short.
It is obvious he wants to have sex. Be straight with him, tell him what you've posted here, that you don't want to ruin everything because of a fling. Then let him tell you how he feels.
Something to consider, you may have given a general "every one is welcome to spend Christmas with me" invitation to all your friends. How did you issue the invite? Does he know others were invited? He may believe that you invited only him or that the invite was sending him a signal.

aidan24326

I have to admit, when I read your post first I thought I was reading about a situation where we had a young possibly naieve girl and a sleazy old man trying to take advantage! So I was wrong on that much anyway !!

Look, you're both 40+, you're not kids so there's no point playing games. Talk to him about it straight, you both obviously like each other alot, so why not? I know you say you don't want to risk ruining the house sharing arrangement that you have, but if you're both interested in each other then it's worth taking that chance. You'll have to gauge what he acually wants though, a possible relationship or just a bit of casual hanky panky, and then decide if you want the same thing. Either option might be worth considering, but only you can decide that.

LegacyUser

Its hard to believe I never dated when I was younger I was 100% committed to my sport.

Then in my 30's I had 2 boyfriends and got engaged to second one and lived with him for a few years, I was knocked for 6 when it ended and it took a good two years to get over it.
I have had one occasional bf since them he is adorable but with the fairies and lives too far.

So 40's single and totally lacking in experience!! He is late 40's no evidence of any GF's ex's or children so far but I did hear from someone who knows him that he was married once.

So in my whole life I have slept with 3 guys and the idea of just go for it is a bit too much for me although I love the theory!