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  • 24-11-2010 2:02pm
    #1
    karmaworks
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8 ✭


    With my boyfriend now a little over a year and a half and i love him very much and i have no doubt he loves me but he recently got a new job which means we work totally opposite hours ... he is off during the week and im off weekends he works nights i work days etc and finding it hard to find time to see each other we dont live together either ... he has said that it will be fine that things will calm down and we will make time for each other but i dont see how .. I dont want him to cut his friends out and he will be starting back football training in the new year im just at a loss now i want to try make it work but am afraid that down the line he is going to realise its impossible and break my heart but i dont want it to get to a point where im nagging him to spend time with me ...

    We had to overcome alot of obstacles to be at this point but through it all it made our love stronger but i cant see past this...

    Is anyone else in this situation? Has anyone else made this work?


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  • #2
    LighterGuy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,243 ✭✭✭LighterGuy


    This is a tricky one.
    From the sounds of it you are in a loving relationship but you are right to have your worries. Things change and people change when circumstances dictate.

    You just have to continue and see what happens. You say you love him, so i dont really think you'll break up with him now over the fear :) (no one would when love is involved) So just try your hardest to make it work as does he aswell. You said both you & him have over-come alot. Sounds like this is another hurdle.


  • #3
    Kingpin187
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 133 ✭✭Kingpin187


    sounds like me and the missus

    She works in a Casino, does 2 alternating shifts, whereas in my job I do 4 different shifts over the course of the month. We live together though and are very much in a strong loving relationship.

    If we didnt live together it would be more or less impossible to spend any time together, unless we happened to be on the same shift, which happens but not very often.

    She will be leaving after the New Year cos its still difficult and we love each others company

    It can work, as long as both parties are committed to each other


  • #4
    karmaworks
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8 ✭karmaworks


    Thanks a mill for the responses it just helps to hear that its not all that bad like i dont want him to spend every minute with me just afraid that it would be a slippery slope of never seeing each other but we do love each other very much so im just going to roll with the punches and enjoy what time we do have together :)


  • #5
    Konata
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,164 ✭✭✭Konata


    Hey OP,

    You sound similiar to me about 2 months ago - I had just moved back to Dublin to return to college while my boyfriend lives in Clare. He was working mainly weekends and I had a bit of a freakout over the fact that I'd never get to see him! >_<

    However, we made it work - both of us make compromises and see each other at least every 2 weeks. The situation may feel doomed at the moment but take a step back and see what either or both of ye can do to try and make some free time. Your boyfriend is actually right - once ye settle into this new lifestyle, ye'll find times that ye can see each other easily. So it may be a bit dodgy for the first few weeks but give it time and hopefully it'll work out :)


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