The weasel

LegacyUser

Long story short. Met a girl, stayed in a long relationship broke up. Guy I know and went to school with and know through all my extended friends shags her a few days later and lends up seeing her for ages. Lil bit peeved, but shrugged it off, and went out of my way to talk to the guy to be nice etc. Fast forward a year, get into another relationhip for a long enough time, break up. Guess who goes and shags my ex again in a weeks time frame? Bingo! Me and my ex have recently started seing each other again, I found out about this. From her none the less through her own stupidity. What should I do with this guy. Please don't give me the you should ignore it stuff because the line has been crossed now <mod snip>

Oryx

OP, I have removed part of your post, as that type of discussion is not allowed here.

Taltos

Fail to see what the issue is here OP.

These are your EX's... So what if he goes in for sloppy seconds - none of your business, no matter what you might think.

finbarrk

Im sure if they are ex's of yours he thinks they are fair game.

Little Miss Lady

Well if they're exes really he isn't doing anything wrong..
but if there is a next time you break up with someone be sure to be out in a large crowd with him and get a moment where you can announce out loudly infront of everyone.. here_ whatever the guys name is..'me and (girl's name) have split up so you're free to have my sloppy seconds again..

If he's any sort of decent guy that should do the trick..
Best of luck

cafecolour

They're your exes and you barely know the guy (a friend of a friend at best). There shouldn't be a problem. Generally, a guy's good mates should not be jumping on his ex, esp. if he was the one dumped, that's about it. It's pretty normal for people in a social circle to sleep with multiple other members of the social circle over the course of time.

Bottle_of_Smoke

If he's your mate and she slept with him a week after splitting with you she's a c*nt and I wouldn't stay with her.

IF he's not your mate well I don't really see the big deal.

Danniboo

Sorry but can you explain which line exactly he has crossed???? These women are your "EXES", they are not your property and perfectly entitled to see who they like??? Are you threatened by this guy??? Sounds like it. If he was your best friend i'd understand why you might be annoyed but other than that you're really just like a jealous controlling ex boyfriend.

LegacyUser

OP forget about her, I went out with a girl and her ex's would keep in contact with her by text or phone etc and only for one reason which I found out later in that she was a people pleaser and had Major Issues. This one ex who she used to tell me everything about including his bedroom manners etc but that was her, he would text and chat with her online all the time and it really pissed me off but when we split on a monday and i was talking to her on that friday she went out collected him and brought him home and she then told me what they did and then had the neck to go and tell me she only did it cause she was hurt over her and me splitting up and did not want to do it with him but did it but was not there in mind etc. Forget and Dump her as she will do it again, you don't need the drama mate, alot better ones out there trust me

SparkyTech

Not revenge but justice wrote: »

Long story short. Met a girl, stayed in a long relationship broke up. Guy I know and went to school with and know through all my extended friends shags her a few days later and lends up seeing her for ages. Lil bit peeved, but shrugged it off, and went out of my way to talk to the guy to be nice etc. Fast forward a year, get into another relationhip for a long enough time, break up. Guess who goes and shags my ex again in a weeks time frame? Bingo! Me and my ex have recently started seing each other again, I found out about this. From her none the less through her own stupidity. What should I do with this guy. Please don't give me the you should ignore it stuff because the line has been crossed now <mod snip>

I don't mean to sound blunt but the guys a grown man and can do what he wants as long as he's abiding by the law. Its not really any of your business. If his actions really annoy you why not just cut all contact? Is an argument/discussion with him really going to achieve anything?

krudler

Beat him up after PE on Friday.

Oh you're not 12? sorry my mistake..

LighterGuy

Its a grey area. Of course it wouldnt be tho if he was sniffing around your exs when you were with them. In that scenerio yeah he would be crossing the line.

But its "grey" because I imagine your last 2 ex's are within a social circle that he is in or associated with. Which would seem he was just the next guy in line after you broke up with both. Which sadly is fair game. As much as it might hurt.

HOWEVER!
Its too much of a coincidence and while coincidences in life happen sure, alot of the time they are anything but coincidences.
I wouldnt be suprised if he was sniffing around them after hearing you were away from them. Which sadly is life. If it wasnt him, it would be someone else....
But I reckon he was bad mouthing you to them. Working his way in. Sure he knows you.

I would get a bit more info on what went on. Sounds like he is a bottom feeder for sure. But you say he hooked up with ex #1 days after and was with her for a good while - Not to put thoughts in your head but you sure he wasnt doing it before you broke up? Sounds suss to me.

Nevyn

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Thaedydal

LegacyUser

OP I agree with you, once was bad enough, twice its crossing the rubicon.

He wouldnt be my mate or a friend of friend, cos I'd drop them too
I'd also be having a word with him and any of his group to give me a wide wide berth for the greater good.

Johnny Bitte

I dont get "There your Ex's they're fair game" crap.

Are ye all seriously saying that from the second any relationship you have been in ended your partner should be on the next piece of ass that comes along and that should be fine with you?? Don't be stupid.

There is obviously the emotional attachment to someone that is still there which should be respected by anyone with a little honor.

OP Yes this douche bag has crossed the line and probably makes it he's business to leap on women just out of a relationship cause their easy pickings for him.

Unfortunately short of giving him a smack there's not a whole lot you can do.
Trying to figure out some way of getting even or embarrassing him will only waste your time.
He is obviously not thinking of you. Forget it but don't pretend to be friendly to him to make him feel better either.

LighterGuy

Op,
due to the timeframe i wouldnt be suprised if he was trying it on when you were still with either ex, or worse he was with either behind your back. That first ex getting with him days after, then seeing him for ages... sounds suss to me.


Have you ever introduced either ex to him?

Nevyn

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Op she is your ex and he wasn't much of a friend, cut them both out of your life and move on.

kjl

OP, what exactly do you hope to achieve with this thread?

Yeah, it's a crap thing to happen, but in the end of the day, it's none of your business any more.

You have to realise in a social group, people score all the time, sure we once made a map and basically in one leap everyone has scored everyone. get over it already.

LegacyUser

OP, I have a friend exactly like this bloke, It is gender reversal so may not have the same meaning behind it but she has been with almost all of her friends exes (including mine). To me, this is an insecurity thing. Him being with your exes means he is as "good" as you and validates him as a person. Look at his other past relationships - are they other aquaintances exes' also? Or is it just you he seems to be trailing?

LegacyUser

I dont think its something to be taken lightlty. We had this situation in my social group and there was war over it. Depends what standards you expect of other people aswell. Also Id question your ex gf. My ex wouldnt ever dream of it, either would my male mates. There are enough other women out there.

LegacyUser

Thing is op, it sounds like she was fair game.

But at the same time, it does sound fishy in a way and I can see why it might sting a little.

This guy sounds like a bit of a sleaze (i have had mates like him) and the best thing you can do is cut him loose or just not bother to talk to him.

If the period of time of you breaking up with your recent ex, him shagging her, and getting back together was pretty small, I would be asking questions about her.

This guy sounds like a opportunistic sleaze, don't bother with him but keep an eye out for if he does try get back in contact with your missus, then your well in your right to feel uncomfortable.

LegacyUser

unreg1 wrote: »

I dont think its something to be taken lightlty. We had this situation in my social group and there was war over it. Depends what standards you expect of other people aswell. Also Id question your ex gf. My ex wouldnt ever dream of it, either would my male mates. There are enough other women out there.

Yeah agreed.

Nothing worse than someone sleeping with mates in a social group, let alone getting involved with two people to mess up a group.

To be honest though OP, it does depend on the time between you breaking up with your ex and getting back together with her. If its a month or two then its in the realms of fair game (its ****ty i know but tis the way things go) if not, then you have a right to be miffed.

pwd

He might have a thing for you tbh.
Saying that to everyone might do it for your revenge thing?

Sorry - I mean justice
(scoff)

Did you know
that getting shirty with guys
because you're jealous
over a girl who is not your gf
makes you look
like a total and complete spa?

Telling people he's doing it because he's gay for you would be funny though. You won't look like a spa if you do that.

SparkyTech

pwd wrote: »

HTelling people he's doing it because he's gay for you would be funny though. You won't look like a spa if you do that.

It wouldn't be funny in the slightest. Using the excuse of bieng 'gay' to get back at someone is hardly a mature response. That sentence sounds somewhat homophobic.

Nevyn

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