Weird sexuality Issue

LegacyUser

hey everybody.

Weird issue not entirely certain it belongs in this forum however im sure it can be easily relocated.

I'm 22 single straight guy who is a virgin and I've never been in a relationship with a girl, this is because of my own lack of self confidence. However for a number of years I have been enjoying the attention I get online when I go into gay chat rooms and personal sites such as gaydar. I also find myself aroused when watching gay porn. At first the attention from gay men was a substitute for the lack of attention from women. However even when I have started to get attention from women I continue to go on these websites.

Now recently I questioned my sexuality and came to the conclusion I am straight because the thought of doing anything with a guy in reality does not appeal to me.

The question I wish to ask is what the hell is wrong with me why do i feel the need to go onto these websites for attention chatting about doing things which in reality i would never do.

Any responses will be appreciated

regards

cafecolour

You aren't alone on gaydar in that regard. Half of the guys on it seem to be just testing the waters or engaging in online flirting with out any intention of ever meeting in real life.

So, originally you were doing it mainly for the attention and the ego boost, and maybe to practice flirting a bit in a same environment, none which is abnormal. Now, you probably just be doing it out of habit. It's one of your go to activities when you're procrastinating/bored/in front of a computer. Believe, me on line forums can be hard to quit

I'd say, when you feel like going on gaydar, maybe try going to deadwhale/addictinggames/etc. - see if that provides the same level of 'time wasting' satisfaction - ie it's become something of a game for you - or if it's still something more.

This is, if you're certain you are not sublimating any legitimate curiosity. If so, better to get it out of the way now, then when you're married with kids.


As for the gay porn, well gay porn is stylized pretty similar to straight porn for a reason - many men are subconsciously turned on by the sight of an erect penis (on the screen), associating it as their own. So you get a full screen of penis pounding vagina/ass/mouth with the same rythyms as masturbation.

Bottle_of_Smoke

I think this is unhealthy as you're taking the easy way out and replacing attention you crave from women with a demographic much more likely to be outspoken about being attracted to you.

There are more financially harmful crutches out there like lapdancers/prostitutes or human dolls. I'd be wary you could end up sucked in by the sex industry if you don't sort yourself out.

Why not write a PI or even a post in the gentleman's club about your confidence issues. If you can afford it maybe talk to a counseller.