What the hell just happened????

LegacyUser

Apologies in advance for the triviality of this problem - It's just destroying my mind right now!!

So, last Saturday night I met a guy in a bar, we instantly hit it off and actually have a few common friends but he was staying in that bar and we were moving on to meet people and i was reeeeeally shocked when he didn't ask for a number or anything but I got the impression he thought I wasn't interested.

So, within 10 minutes of leaving the place he had sent me a facebook msg. I was delighted! But noticed his facebook said he was in a r/ship - I asked him about this and he said I could aks any of our mutual friends and they'd confirm he is single - it was because he had an admirer giving him unwanted attention and he did it to give her a hint. We pretty much texted all day Sunday and Sunday night - it burned out a bit on Monday but then we met up for drinks, had a great laugh and a kiss

Both of us expressed how much we enjoyed it! We are both kind of busy and we work opposite schedules so it was gonna be difficult but we both seemed to feel it was worth it! He started a new text conversation with me everyday and even I'd stop replying whithin an hour he'd start a new conversation - He called me on Thursday and asked me to meet him after work, I said no because I was working late and in early the next morning, he slagged me for being no fun but appeared to understand. I had told him I had plans to go out with my friend on Fri night and he called me and said he'd like to go out to dinner and he'd take the night off work (he works weekends mostly) I reminded him about my plans but said I'd see if i could meet him before or after? I looked at my plans i'd made and it wasn't realistic to meet him before or after and I wasn't going to ditch my mate! Before I got a chance to text him and say it wouldnt suit I'd a text saying "Whose a grump at 1am" I didn't feel like i was a grump, i'd just been stuck in work reeeeally late and was due back in at 9. I said it didn't suit and asked was I really a grump- to which he replied "no worries, laters".

I felt weird about it, like, we were talking non stop so i don't feel like he thought I wasn't interested?

I texted him the next day when i realised he added one of my good friends on facebook that he went to school with! That was at 4 - no reply.......? Then at 9, because I was out and my head was melted, I called him - no ans.... I left a voicemail saying "are we not friends anymore" I was laughing about it...nothing

An hour later I got a text "Hi, sorry I haven't been on, up to my eyes! Day from hell and now in work"

I replied "Ok so....you obviously have a lot on, I'll leave you to it". That was at 10 on Fri night and I've heard nothing - but notice his facebook now says he's single!

Obviously, i didn't even know him a week ago so i'm not overly worried - but i am confused - anyone any clues here???? Baffled!

City boy turned country

Hi Head melted,

My own opinion as guy and remember me not knowing the guy, I can only comment on me and my mates.

To me this guy seems to be a bit of a player. My reason for saying that is when you couldn't meet him, he got in strop. He added one of your friends after you said you couldn't meet him.

Is he a young chap not that this matters but generally it is the younger guys in there 20's & early 30's are like this.

Just my humble opinion anyway

Bob_Latchford

Yeah he has spat the dummy out as you were not available.

Also he seems to have no trouble meeting girls in bars, maybe hes has met someone else.

Either way hes not being completely honest with you, imo.

Distorted

Sounds as though he has a very short attention span and gets distracted if he doesn't get constant attention! Hard work, IMHO...

kjl

OP, he is playing hot and cold. Guys do it all the time.

dub_3

My guess is that he's texting / facebooking several girls with a view to getting laid. He'll be putting most effort into whatever girl is most likely to put out.

Once he realised your life was too complicated and you wouldn't abandon friends for him, then you moved down his priority list, and now he's concentrating on your friend that he recently added to FB.

He'll be back if she tells him where to go and he hasn't another easy target lined up.

His friends will always say that he's not in a relationship cos he's never in a relationship, he's always just playing the field.

LegacyUser

headmeltedbigtme wrote: »

I replied "Ok so....you obviously have a lot on, I'll leave you to it".

That can be read as , "I see your busy - right so feck off"
maybe thats why ?