Give me patience

LegacyUser

Theres a girl in college copying every single thing I do.
I come up with one idea. She copies it.
There are either two things going on here.

a. She genuinely cannot think for herself.
or b. She is deliberately trying to antagonize me.

I'm going to intuitively go with B.

Either way, it is extremely antagonizing and annoying, and I wonder is there any way I can express my view of her behavior without seeming childish or selfish. ?

Oryx

Option C: She is shy or insecure and admires you, therefore copies things you do in order to feel more confident, as she thinks you are.

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Take it as a compliment.

Des Carter

Option She happened to come up with the same idea as you and its all in your head.

Are you sure she is copying you or is it possible that it was just a coincidence.

Little Acorn

What exactly is she copying? If it's something regarding music or fashion, she may just have a similar style to you, and like the same stuff.

LegacyUser

She did not come up with it first. I have date digitally stamped evidence that she didn't .
She saw what I had done, then went a did something similar. and has been doing so since last year, in virtually every project we have done.

She is not shy at all. She's very confident.
She's playing some kind of mind game.

So, to pity her?
or actually challenge her on it?
or say it to someone in seniority?
It is quite obvious what she has done today, but she can be much subtler about how she goes about it.

And I would really prefer if she would just come up with her own stuff, and get a bit of originality.

Oryx

You didnt say it was college work related. Have you mentioned it to a tutor?

LegacyUser

Yes, it's College Work related, which I take very seriously.
I wouldn't mind if we were in the playground playing *follow the leader* We are not.

baby and crumble

if she is taking your work and calling it her own or taking credit you need to talk to your tutor or course co-ordinator. otherwise you could both be dragged in when it's noticed (and it will be) by your markers, and then it's harder to et it fully sorted.

Outkast_IRE

is it a option just to not let her see your work ? or perhaps make up a stupid dummy essay or project and make her look foolish?

claireeney

Get away from her. Run! (Hopefully she cant run as fast as you)

This sounds like it's leading to identity fraud.

Surely if your not near her she cant copy you. keep your activities private from your other friends as well, for a while at least and see what happens.

The only other thing you can do is get her in private and ask her is she that brain dead that she cant think of what to do herself.

LegacyUser

Identity Fraud ?

Are you for real?

I understand the concept of Identity Fraud, but I'm not sure if this is really leading to that sort of thing? Can you expand on what you mean?
We work closely together. I want my degree and in order to obtain it, I have to work with her, around her, as nightmarish as that is.

claireeney

Quibibly wrote: »

Identity Fraud ?

Are you for real?

I understand the concept of Identity Fraud, but I'm not sure if this is really leading to that sort of thing? Can you expand on what you mean?
We work closely together. I want my degree and in order to obtain it, I have to work with her, around her, as nightmarish as that is.

Oh lord I was joking! I thought the afterwards might have given a clue. Chill out, kind of sounds like you are a bit paranoid.

Billiejo

I had the same problem. Then I learned to the art of craftyness. How.
Think of an 'right' idea. Keep it to yourself.
Share the 'wrong' one with friend.