facebook friendships-playing with fire?

LegacyUser

Im a young man in my early 20s and so often i get girls from 17 onwards befriending me,some i would accept and would have a good chat with them,i have swapped numbers with some and flirted and did some sexting,looking back now i feel foolish,would this make me an sexual predator?,i am really confused and ashamed to know.

baby and crumble

I would be a bit wary, OP, but then again I never really understood friendly people you genuinely don't know on fb...

Drodan

If you have doubt about any of it OP, cut contact completely with these girls. Better safe than sorry kinda deal y'know. Maybe talk to a professional about it too if it's really getting to you, might help.

LegacyUser

ok,so i was just worrying too much,i was scared i was breaking law,but found something here,silly me

http://www.b4udecide.ie/relationships/sexting_and_online_profiles/sexting.html

wealthyman

You must be good looking then? I suggest you just put up a general scenery pic or not close up's of your face so then they won't bother befriending you.

ongarboy

qak qak wrote: »

Im a young man in my early 20s and so often i get girls from 17 onwards befriending me,some i would accept and would have a good chat with them,i have swapped numbers with some and flirted and did some sexting,looking back now i feel foolish,would this make me an sexual predator?,i am really confused and ashamed to know.

How are you the sexual predator if they were the ones that initiated the friendship invite? Are these random strangers that are sending you invites or acquaintances? If you are accepting invites from complete strangers and you are feeling uncomfortable or regretful, then the simple solution is to stop accepting those friendship invites and start ignoring the ones you've already accepted. If they are strangers, I doubt they are getting in touch with you because you could become a potential chess partner or badminton opponent. They are just being immature girls chancing their arms and probably gossiping while watching the X Factor or "Take Me Out" about how many boys they befriended on FB that week and awarding each other scores for how cute their batch of fellas are. You are not comfortable about this scenario as you wouldn't raise this issue on this forum otherwise so stop clicking Accept and start clicking Ignore and go and meet some new friends (and girls) in the real world instead...far more satisfying! Good Luck!

LighterGuy

So your early 20s and sex-texting 17 upwards girls? .... its legal mate. So no it doesnt make you a predator.

To be so blunt, a guy in his late 30s would have sex with a 17yo girl if he could. I've known a lot of girls around 18 who've slept with guys up to 30.
Just be careful tho some girls state 17/18 but they aint. Otherwise, lets be honest mate. Half of the guys who you know around your age would do the same as you if they could.

CiaranMT

Well since you've posted here, it'd seem that you're looking for a confirmation of your uneasiness with the situation. Best to cut the contact, as has been said above by Drodan.

LegacyUser

hi all,i take lighters advice,and relax and stop worry too much,thank you all for help

LegacyUser

ok,met one of my friends in town yesterday,told me she liked me,we kissed,texted,tried phone sex for first time,just got carried away talking on phone thats how it happened,is this wrong ?

Andy-Pandy

LighterGuy wrote: »

To be so blunt, a guy in his late 30s would have sex with a 17yo girl if he could. I

I'm 33 and i wouldnt dream of going there. Would just be wrong.

Drodan

I'm 22 and I wouldn't, speak for yourself Lighterguy

LegacyUser

Just because its legal doesn't make it moral. Can you honestly say every 17 year old you come into contact with on Facebook is going to possess the maturity and sense that has to come with intimate texting, let alone doing it with an adult who's nearly twice their age? I'd flirt with women your own age, OP.

LegacyUser

should i see a councillorA or something if its wrong and shameful

Motley Crue

qak qak wrote: »

Im a young man in my early 20s and so often i get girls from 17 onwards befriending me,some i would accept and would have a good chat with them,i have swapped numbers with some and flirted and did some sexting,looking back now i feel foolish,would this make me an sexual predator?,i am really confused and ashamed to know.

Had a similar situation myself a few years ago on MSN, a girl with a web cam who was under-age (I was 18 and she was 15/16), and needless to say I was lucky it wasn't something more sinister. In the end I just politely told her I couldn't speak to her anymore and deleted her from my contacts. I was often surprised in the MSN days how many dodgy people you'd meet