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Babies or not

  • 14-11-2010 1:32am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Im almost 36 years old with a 17 year old daughter but I long for another child...my husband was in favour of having children before we got married (I had my daughter when I was 17 and before I met him) but he has made excuses as to why we couldnt have a baby since. We have been married for the past 11 years and I'm sick of the excuses and now realise that he doesnt actually want any more children. I feel cheated and dont know what to do as I love him but he has obviously decieved me for so long that I am thinking of IVF on my own....I'm so sad th have to think of this at my age


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  • #2
    How Strange
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,339 ✭✭✭How Strange


    Op you need to have an honest and open discussion with your husband. Discuss the whole thing. Ivf is not something I'd recommend as a substitute solution as it's very expensive, emotionally and physically demanding and you have to fulfill certain criteria to be accepted on a programme.

    This really is a matter between you and your husband. I'm 36 and I'm expecting our first so it's not necessarily too late. I got pregnant straightaway so don't go panicking about your age. Talk to him calmly and rationally and expect the same level of engagement from him. I know alot if men recoil from these conversations but he has to respect you and your marriage enough to be open to talking about the issue of kids.


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