Just wondering...

squishykins

Hey guys,
to put it in a nutshell, I'm wondering if I should come out to my parents.
I'm bisexual, and I've known it since I was about 13...I think...around then anyways. I've had two girlfriends but back then my relationship with my parents was very strained and I didn't tell them anything, like a normal teenager basically.
I've been seeing my boyfriend for three years now, and our relationship is stronger than ever. Touch wood he'll be around for a lot longer. My relationship with my parents has improved dramatically with age and I get on really well with them, you know the occasional argument but whatever. I'm pretty sure they'd accept it (and slag the bejaysus out of me!) but I don't know if there's any point since I'm in a "straight relationship"? I got a very bad reception when I came out in school, I went to an all girls school and got battered and bruised for being "butch" (the irony, I know ^^',) so I dunno, I just feel like it'd be better keeping quiet...

DS333

amyputz wrote: »

Hey guys,
to put it in a nutshell, I'm wondering if I should come out to my parents.
I'm bisexual, and I've known it since I was about 13...I think...around then anyways. I've had two girlfriends but back then my relationship with my parents was very strained and I didn't tell them anything, like a normal teenager basically.
I've been seeing my boyfriend for three years now, and our relationship is stronger than ever. Touch wood he'll be around for a lot longer. My relationship with my parents has improved dramatically with age and I get on really well with them, you know the occasional argument but whatever. I'm pretty sure they'd accept it (and slag the bejaysus out of me!) but I don't know if there's any point since I'm in a "straight relationship"? I got a very bad reception when I came out in school, I went to an all girls school and got battered and bruised for being "butch" (the irony, I know ^^',) so I dunno, I just feel like it'd be better keeping quiet...

I don't know your parents but I agree with you that it might be better keeping quiet under the circumstances. If it's not prying, how did your boyfriend take it?

Really sorry to hear you were battered and bruised at school. I sometimes wonder if it's getting worse for young gay people than better. It doesn't make any sense to me, considering we're supposed to be in a post-Christian era.

I wish you every happiness and hope you're with your boyfriend for eons.

baby and crumble

Well, I can't tell you what to do, but the same as you I didn't come out to my folks for ages- I'm full on gay, but I didn't see the point in 'worrying' them about something that tbh mightn't have an impact on them for a long time. (I didn't hold out much hope of finding a GF!) But as soon as we got together I told them- I didn't want to hide my gf from them.

But as for your situation- what would it accomplish? You might only melt their heads for no reason. Like you said you're in a monogamous relationship with someone's who's hopefully gonna be around for ages, so why tell them something about your sex life/ the inside of your head you don't have to? It'd be a bit like telling them you're into spanking- they don't nec need to know!

Chuchoter

To be really honest I don't see the point in telling them unless you get into a serious relationship with a girl at some stage. You don't want to risk your relationship with them for something they might never really need to know about.

squishykins

Thanks for the replies guys, was kind of thinking the same myself but just kinda wanted to see if I was doing the right thing
It's never bothered my boyfriend at all, I'm pretty sure the first thing he thought was "threesome!" (which hasn't happened...yet :pac:) But yeah he's never had a problem with it, he sometimes has a bit of a light-hearted pisstake but that's it :P

DS333

Am really happy for you both. As for the folks, leave the hornet's nest alone at present.