so after first date...

LegacyUser

Hi all,

Im a regular but decided to be anon for this..

So went on a first date last night, great fun, hes really handsome, a bit too much to drink (nerves;) but overall great time.

Thing is, I have not been dating in a while or meet anyone i actually fancy, and i do fancy him! yeah!

So as much as im usually pretty good at sensing things for others, my radar is totally off when it comes to my own stuff.;(


So my question is, how long generally you hear back from a guy after 1st date??

im not stress now but i have to say i have butterfly thinking of him so obviously im getting to think of him a lot today.;-)

As it was a blind date Im not sure if he does fancy me back so if we get to have at least another date i will feel a bit better about the situation and wont be as nervous as i am now.

Thanks in advance for your views!

That_Guy

Ring him and find out. If you like him, why wait for him to make contact?

Seriously, I don't buy into these "rules" that you should wait X amount of hours to make contact after a first date.

If it feels right, go for it.

Princess Peach

Send him a text tonight. One that doesn't really ask for a response, just saying just wanted you to know I had a great night and thanks so much for everything, something along that lines. Cause thats not you being clingy, if you get what I mean, just thanking him for taking you out. And hopefully he'll text back and you might have a chat.

He could be just as nervous as you, not knowing if you like him, and wondering if he texts too soon or something it could be bad. So take a brave step and do it first. Whats the worst that could happen?

Susie_Q

I agree with the other posters; if you have his number, then text him and let you know you would like to see him again.

When I met my OH years ago I gave him my number without taking his and had to wait FIVE DAYS until he called! It was hell on earth. Don't follow my lead - drop him a text!

Chucky the tree

I'd at least wait until tomorrow but even then I think you'd be better waiting until Sunday.

LegacyUser

I'd give it another day or two then give him a call or text if he hasn't been in touch. It can be a hard one to call, last weekend I had a date which went really well, we got on great, chatted lots, had dinner and drinks and he paid me several compliments throughout the evening. Didn't hear anything for a couple of days so decided for once that I would take the step of getting in touch first. I sent a message thanking him for dinner, asking how his week was going, etc. and he didn't even reply.

Last month I had a date which was going really well until he realised I wasn't going to put out, that was the end of that.

Had another date with a guy who was really keen to meet again whereas I didn't really enjoy the date, didn't fancy him and didn't feel we had much in common.

So you really never know, take the plunge and contact him then you'll find out. Good luck!

LegacyUser

Hi OP here,

Thanks for the comments..

I am not playing games at all, I actually never have as I'm not into that either, it's just you know when you do things and it doesnt work out then you tend to try something new to see if it works better, for me the last few times I went on dates I did contacted the guy first and it never turned out good, as no 2nd date pretty much, so this time I feel I should see if he IS interested logic would be that he does make a move.

We did kiss, but when drinks are involved I don't think its a sure sign of anything;-)

I just wanted views about in general how long after, if you're a guy, you will wait til you contact the girl after the date.

gives me a ballpark idea I guess, but in my mind I think few days no news will means hes not really bother.

Haaa I hate these feelings, I'm not usually like this all giggly and clingy to know, I just really fancy him thats all.

shocksy

miss ananymous wrote: »

Hi OP here,

Thanks for the comments..

I am not playing games at all, I actually never have as I'm not into that either, it's just you know when you do things and it doesnt work out then you tend to try something new to see if it works better, for me the last few times I went on dates I did contacted the guy first and it never turned out good, as no 2nd date pretty much, so this time I feel I should see if he IS interested logic would be that he does make a move.

We did kiss, but when drinks are involved I don't think its a sure sign of anything;-)

I just wanted views about in general how long after, if you're a guy, you will wait til you contact the girl after the date.

gives me a ballpark idea I guess, but in my mind I think few days no news will means hes not really bother.

Haaa I hate these feelings, I'm not usually like this all giggly and clingy to know, I just really fancy him thats all.

This is just my opinion, im a guy, if it was me i'de contact the girl maybe the next day or the following day, i would tend to agree with your assumption that after a few days with no contact, there certainly wouldn't be much interest, thats how i would see the matter and would possibly do similar, never have so cant say for sure, but if he did fancy you i see no reason why a lad would wait days to contact. Just my opinion and i could be totally wrong

LegacyUser

No hard n fast rules here, if it were me i'd of texted back in the taxi/bus on the way home and thanked my date for a lovely evening..

All this waiting around and wondering is rubbish.. say what you feel and if the other person does not like that then its there loss not yours..

he could be posting on here as well wondering "How long should I leave it before i text her back"

So come on people of Ireland, dont be shy and take chances in your life!

LegacyUser

you all have good points, and I know I have nothing to lose, putting everything in prospective I only met him once, I had a good night, hope he did too, if not well thats just nothing else to lose you are right.

So I texted him, just a short one not asking anything but enjoy the evening and will see if he makes any contact back.

It's a strange thing being able to know what to do and act like it when it's for others but when it comes to your own you lose all directions or senses its weird..

Thank you and finger's crossed I get something back, if not, my ego will be bruised but will get over it.;-)

I am a friend

From my own experiences, anyone I have had to contact first after a date typically were less interested in me than I in them (if that makes sense). What I mean is that if he has been interested after a date then he makes contact and if he is not that pushed, he would typically respond to my contact but would not have instigated it.

LegacyUser

I am a friend wrote: »

From my own experiences, anyone I have had to contact first after a date typically were less interested in me than I in them (if that makes sense). What I mean is that if he has been interested after a date then he makes contact and if he is not that pushed, he would typically respond to my contact but would not have instigated it.

So true, you nailed it! I guess that's what I was trying to say before when I said I wasn't playing games, and again, I proved to myself that its clear, I texted him yesterday and thought ok, I give this contacting the guy first a try and he barely sent a text this morning
saying how he had a good night with the mates (I had wish him to have fun (he was going to a friend's engagement party) in my text yesterday)

SO you are correct, he politely replied thats all, but the one liner text without asking me how I am or it was nice to meet is pretty clear he's not that bother about me.

Fine, I won't bother either about him!