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Bad family issues....

  • 12-11-2010 8:50pm
    #1
    stacey35
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1 ✭


    I dont know what to do or feel... Ever since i can remember i have been put down and criticised by my family. If ever anything went wrong i was always blamed, i was told i was useless at everything and would never do anything productive with my life-which is untrue. My family always thought they were better than me and always looked down their noses at me. They were very critical of me calling me names like knacker,tinker,slut,whore,ugly and saying that the world would be a better place if i was dead. I believed everything they said and as a result i ended up hating myself so much. I hated the way i looked,thought that i was no good at anything,and i felt like people would be better off without me. This went on up until last year when i made the decision to disown them all. I couldnt take any more. I know that was a very drastic decsion but i believe it was in the best interests of me and my 2 kids. There is a lot more that they did to me and my family but i cant discuss that. I had therapy and by the time that finished i felt so much better and felt like a normal happy person.I was so delighted!! Recently though i met my brother and he started roaring at me and putting me down again and it brought it all back again. What do i do?? I dont want to feel like i did for all those years. Sometimes i worry about my mental health. What can i do so this doesnt go back to the way it was?? Its crazy that 1 person can make you feel so so so bad about yourself.


Comments

  • #2
    astra2000
    Closed Accounts Posts: 734 ✭✭✭astra2000


    Hi op this sounds like a terrible situation to have been in and you are definetly better off keeping away from them. It may be a good idea for you to have more therapy as you found it so helpful last time. They will be able to give you advice on how to cope with future confrontationS. Best of luck op


  • #3
    Jenneke87
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 807 ✭✭✭Jenneke87


    I don't know how old you are but is it an option for you to cut ties with your family? They sounds horrible and abusive and I think you need to stay as far away from them as possible. You don't even have to give a reason, just don't contact them again. If they ask you why, just tell them, and have nothing more to do with them afterwards....


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