Am I making to much of a deal out of this?

LegacyUser

Hey guys, I have a small problem and I wondered if anyone could talk me through it? I am so nervous about my first kiss that is has actually stopped me from starting up relationships and because I am the age i am people expect you to be experienced and that's what is what freaks me out.

I have been talking to this girl for a few weeks and I like her and she really likes me and last night I knew she wanted to kiss me I got so nervous that I pretended my phone went off (on silent) and told her that there was a problem at home and I had to go asap..

I have given girls similar lies in the past just to get out of similar situations..

Has anyone got any tips to make me relax and not worry about it??

The girl I want to go out with knows a lot of my work collegues and well I am paranoid that if she thinks i'm inexperienced that she will tell everyone..


HELP!!!!!!!

happyfeet2010

how old are you?

Heres what you do..

Tilt head- in the opposite direction of the other person..
close the eyes (once you know that your lips are going to land on the other person.. and not on their nose!)..
contact with lips.. little kisses first..
then onto french kissing.. which involves using your tongue- with theirs..

There you go.. its as simple as that...really.. just relax and enjoy it.

Maybe you could you-tube it..

Also- you say "people expect you to be experienced"... well a person may be experienced.. but that does not necessarily mean they are good!

Who knows... you could be a real romeo!

Sleepy

One of the worst kissers I've ever been with had plenty of experience prior to me.

Others who had very little experience were great kissers.

Just follow the girl's lead and you should be fine!

LegacyUser

One of the worst kissers I've ever been with had plenty of experience prior to me.

Others who had very little experience were great kissers.

+1

When i had my first kiss (at 21 ) the guy told me i was a great kisser! (he didn't know he was my first kiss) in my head i was thinking, lol i have nooo idea what i'm doing!

Equally some of the worst kisses have been with guys who were more experienced! One guy (who'd had numerous long term girlfriends) was like a dog lapping at my tongue ughhh, all i could think was how did these girls stick that?! But everyone has different kissing styles i guess....

Has anyone got any tips to make me relax and not worry about it??

Its just one of those things you have to just do i'm afraid OP afterwards you'll realise its not a huge deal, It does tend to come naturally though, although you won't understand that until you do it unfortunately...

The only advice i can give you is go easy with the tongue, tease her tongue with yours, don't ram it down her throat, just don't over think it OP honestly it does just come naturally Like i said people have different kissing styles, she won't even know its your first time, Just follow her lead, also don't worry about the odd teeth clash or head bump, it happens

I was a bit anxious at the time too, was wondering "what if I make a fool of myself or what if she knows more than me?" When it did happen it just came naturally to me, it's as if I already knew what to do.

lau1247

nothing to be nervous about.. just relax and take your time there..

think of it this way, if stop the moment because your nervous and think that you'll mess up.. then if you don't do the deed, she might think something is wrong and you've probably already messed up your chances anyway..

You have nothing to lose really.. from what i can see

LegacyUser

Thanks for the info/comments guys it actually makes me feel a ll better about it. I just hope I havnt ruined my chances with this girl now:(

To answer the earlier question: I am 19 which might seem young to a few but nowadays it's unbelievable how experienced young people are... It really is so easy to feel like the oddball of the group....

Queen-Mise

happyfeet2010 wrote: »

how old are you?


Also- you say "people expect you to be experienced"... well a person may be experienced.. but that does not necessarily mean they are good!

/QUOTE]

This is so true - kissing is a very individual thing. I have known men who are very experienced sexually but have been crap kissers.


Good kissing will get you a long way if inexperienced in other ways.

My tip for kissing - vary it up - short, sweet, long, deep... teasing kisses. You have seen enough TV shows/movies to know what I mean.

Kissing isn't a thing you become experienced at per se. How you kiss is how you kiss :cool::cool:

Fluorescence

Just relax and it'll be fine.

But whatever you do - I'M BEGGING YOU - don't lunge toward her with an open mouth and ram your tongue down her throat (it's happened to me before and it's disgusting). Start with small closed mouth kisses and go from there. Just follow her lead and you'll be fine. It's all gravy .

Also OP, a few of my friends are 19 and haven't kissed anyone yet either... It's unusual but not unheard of.

LegacyUser

nowadays it's unbelievable how experienced young people are... It really is so easy to feel like the oddball of the group....

OP I think everyone feels this when they're growing up to some extent, just remember that teenagers love to boast, but it doesn't necessarily mean its the truth.
A lot of what you hear is most likely exaggerated.

IrishEyes19

Don't be worrying at all, OP, I wouldnt even call it unusual at that age to be honest. You can guarantee at lot of your peers in school most likely talked about their escapades , but I'd say those who actually had them are a different story.

Regarding kissing for the first time, as everyone has said, it comes naturally, it truly does and the advice from others here is spot on. Don't be over zealous with certain things, and just take it easy from the start, theres always a pattern to every kiss so just follow it. If anything this girl will be nervous too, if she likes you, her thoughts will most likely be on how she kisses too. So relax and enjoy the moment.

Zen65

lettingthingsslipaway wrote: »

I am 19 which might seem young to a few but nowadays it's unbelievable how experienced young people are...

It's unbelievable for a very simple reason: most of what people tell you about these experiences are lies exaggerations. Any 30-year old will quietly admit how much he or she may have "sexed up" their own CV as teenagers to look good.

OP, relax, it's like shaking hands..... just because a person has done it for years doesn't mean they're any good at it, and vice versa. You can't really tell how many times a person has shaken hands when they shake yours, can you?

Be at peace,


Z