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Sleeping with a married man

LegacyUser · 2010-11-07 16:15:30

Last night I made a HUGE mistake. I slept with a good friend of mine who is married. We were both drunk but that is no excuse! I know it was wrong and pretty slutty of me but it was just one of those things. I have always found him attractive but I still can't believe I let myself be so stupid...all I can think of is his…

07-11-2010 4:15pm

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Last night I made a HUGE mistake. I slept with a good friend of mine who is married. We were both drunk but that is no excuse! I know it was wrong and pretty slutty of me but it was just one of those things.

I have always found him attractive but I still can't believe I let myself be so stupid...all I can think of is his poor wife and if she ever found out!

My friends would kill me if they found out..I feel so sick! I can't talk to anyone about it cause all our friends are mutual. That and the fact I know how wrong I've done...

I just needed to get it out and tell some one so please fell free to give your voice...

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#2 07-11-2010 8:18pm

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He should tell his wife. Let her decide.

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#3 07-11-2010 8:25pm

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Break off contact with him, limit time spent out in your social circles with him.
Yes it was a dumb thing to do but he broke his marriage vows not you.

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#4 07-11-2010 8:36pm

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This is a classic example of a catch 22 situation >>

- You tell the wife. You will loose all the mutual friends.
- If you dont say anything it says alot for your morals, and also if its ever found out you'll be seen as worse as you hid it.

Its time to decide what will win op. Your conscience or not wanting to shoot yourself in the foot.

Either way I think this is just another example in life that you should be careful of your partner and their friends.

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#5 07-11-2010 8:50pm

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troublewithacapitalT wrote: »

pretty slutty of me

Well slutty of him moreso....

troublewithacapitalT wrote: »

it was just one of those things

No it wasnt... Its a big deal and should not be repeated... You do realise you have been used dont you?

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#6 07-11-2010 8:57pm

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I think the best thing you can do is vow never to do it again. Cheating can be very easy to justify to oneself, especially when it has happened once already, almost like a "feck it, it's happened now, what's the deal if we have just one more repeat performance". You have to cut him out of your life.

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#7 07-11-2010 8:58pm

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Yeah I do realise... I shouldn't have done it but I'm a weak person..yet again not a valid excuse... I just don't know why I did it or he did for that matter...

I blame myself for letting it happen as he instigated it. Cheating is not something I take lightly, so for me to be actually a part of it...

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#8 07-11-2010 9:31pm

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troublewithacapitalT wrote: »

Yeah I do realise... I shouldn't have done it but I'm a weak person..yet again not a valid excuse... I just don't know why I did it or he did for that matter...

I blame myself for letting it happen as he instigated it. Cheating is not something I take lightly, so for me to be actually a part of it...

There is no excuse... You have been had - literally as well as metaphorically.... He did it could he could.... You did it for God knows what reason....

Quit blaming him... He instigated but you facilitated.... Not good but I have this funny feeling it wont be the last time...

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#9 07-11-2010 9:45pm

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I am a friend wrote: »

There is no excuse... You have been had - literally as well as metaphorically.... He did it could he could.... You did it for God knows what reason....

Quit blaming him... He instigated but you facilitated.... Not good but I have this funny feeling it wont be the last time...

I'm actually not blaming him... I blame myself totally!! I know for a fact that it will never happen again... I never want to feel this sick or be in this position ever again!

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#10 07-11-2010 10:57pm

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Good for you but learn a lesson from this.... He is a disgust (as my Granny would say).

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#11 07-11-2010 11:01pm

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