Getting over the fact that no body likes me.

LegacyUser

Just wondering if you guys have any tips on the above.
I'm pretty happy in general, but this gets me down from time to time.

Blatter

Are you saying that nobody likes you in a sexual sense or just in general?

LegacyUser

Oh, in general, I'm pretty much a lone wolf.

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I think you are presuming that people don't like you OP
Put yourself in everyone elses shoes and imagine a random person strolling up for a chat. They dont want them to fail at it and they dont want them to make an ass of themselves, that leads to awkwardness and makes their life harder as a result
Basically, whatever you might think now, people are really nice 99% of the time, they want to have easy relations with you and even if it seems awkward they'll just think you're shy/nice
Most people are nice, never think that they don't like you by default because I'm sure that isn't true for you and it sure as hell isn't true with them

Not being harsh on you hear OP but I could be fairly certain that there is no ground for people not liking you, that takes a lot of energy. People generally dont dislike anyone unless you give them a reason not to, at worse you are probably anonymous now. And you dont need to be a slick so and so to get noticed, you jsut need to look people n the eye when they are having there chats and actually giving your opinion and they will invariably be delighted to hear it, it enriches the conversation and thereby makes there life easier and more interesting

(you will notcie that i mentioned making life easier a couple of times, remember that, no one wants grief and certainly couldn't be bothered disliking anyone without good reason, if you think you're a nice person then show them )

cc-offe

What age are you OP?

LegacyUser

Roberto Mammoth Staff wrote: »

I think you are presuming that people don't like you OP
Put yourself in everyone elses shoes and imagine a random person strolling up for a chat. They dont want them to fail at it and they dont want them to make an ass of themselves, that leads to awkwardness and makes their life harder as a result
Basically, whatever you might think now, people are really nice 99% of the time, they want to have easy relations with you and even if it seems awkward they'll just think you're shy/nice
Most people are nice, never think that they don't like you by default because I'm sure that isn't true for you and it sure as hell isn't true with them

Not being harsh on you hear OP but I could be fairly certain that there is no ground for people not liking you, that takes a lot of energy. People generally dont dislike anyone unless you give them a reason not to, at worse you are probably anonymous now. And you dont need to be a slick so and so to get noticed, you jsut need to look people n the eye when they are having there chats and actually giving your opinion and they will invariably be delighted to hear it, it enriches the conversation and thereby makes there life easier and more interesting

(you will notcie that i mentioned making life easier a couple of times, remember that, no one wants grief and certainly couldn't be bothered disliking anyone without good reason, if you think you're a nice person then show them )

I agree 99% of people are cool. I do make an effort. join clubs, suggest meet ups etc. And in fairness they have their own lives to get on with.
I'll be honest it's xmas that's getting me down at the mo. I'll go home from work on the 20/21 Dec and go to my parents for xmas diner. but other than that I won't talk to a sinner until I go back to work in the new year.
I suppose I'm at an awakard age (30) and I'm single at the moment.
Just finding it a little hard to adjust to this way of life.

P.s. Sorry the tread title is ott, was a little miffed as had tried to get out for a pint last night but got knocked back. (bo ho).