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Dad doesn't understand my illness

  • 03-11-2010 9:15pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Gonna go unreg for this one.

    i have had social phobia for as long as i can remember (as well as ocd) and lately i've noticed that if my anxiety creeps up or if i go into a downer and talk to my dad about it he totally flips.

    i'm scared to go out sometimes and this week i couldn't go to my course because of that and dad turned into such an asshole. he started saying that all i do is stay in bed even though he knows my meds make me really sleepy.

    he even said that he just feels like packing his bags sometimes. it's like he's ashamed of mum and me. he's started at me about what i eat.

    he just doesn't understand how hard it is for me. i know it's hard on him too but it's like he's blaming me for being ill.


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  • #2
    Chuchoter
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,305 ✭✭✭Chuchoter


    I doubt its just that he's being an asshole. He's worried about you, all he can see is you falling under your condition and letting other things slip, but he doesn't know how to say that properly so instead he's just giving out.


  • #3
    Princess Peach
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,698 ✭✭✭✭Princess Peach


    Get some leaflets from your doctor or buy a book about your condition and give it to him to make him understand more.

    Or even just talk to him about he's making you feel, and let him know how you would like him to act towards you, what things he does that upset you.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    sorry to hear about your phobia. That must be hard. I'm going to speak from the other side. I've a young child who is ill and a lot of the time just lying around doing nothing. Sometimes this makes me feel like wanting to scream at him to just do something. This is not because I'm mean or don't understand the condition but because it hurts so much seeing him like that. However, I agree get a book or something that will make your dad understand.


  • #5
    thefeatheredcat
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,282 ✭✭✭thefeatheredcat


    Your dad is probably frustrated and distressed because there's probably little that he can do to help the situation to improve.

    He must feel a bit helpless because he doesn't have a magic wand to change things for you for the better and he wants better for you and probably blames himself for your situation. He also may find it difficult to deal with it all himself and that's how his reaction comes out like that.... he may in fact understand but it's probably torture on him too to see you like that and wants to somehow get you back on course his way and may see that the meds aren't helping by his perception?

    If you're uncomfortable talking with your dad about being down about things, is there someone else that you can go to as well or instead at times?


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