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How long after a relationship?

  • 02-11-2010 2:40am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi there, regular poster both here and all over boards looking for a bit of advice...

    So basically, there is a girl in the group I hang out with, that I've had a thing for for quite a while. A few years ago, before I moved away for my masters was when I first realised my feelings for her. I decided not to pursue it, as I was only a few months of moving away etc, etc.

    While away, I had a couple of GFs but nothing more than 6/7 months. I've been back in Ireland for a few months at this stage, and only recently met up with this girl again, and the feelings are still there, and I want to act on them.

    This is, she is just out of an 18 month relationship in the last couple of weeks, and I have no idea how to go about this. I got some, let's say, "mixed" signals over the weekend at a party, but I'm very conscious of her situation, and my own feelings (basically, I don't want to be just a rebound). The 2 of us have always got on really well together, so there's a chance she was just being clingy. I dunno, I'm no genius when it comes to reading women!

    I understand that everyone is different, and that I shouldn't really be asking for a time scale, but is there any rule of thumb, or any guideline I should be paying attention to here?


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  • #2
    tolosenc
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,889 ✭✭✭tolosenc


    Assuming you're a guy for this one...

    I'm no expert, but I reckon being up front about it with her is the best way to go about it. If she likes you and isn't ready, she may say so, and may come back to you on it. If she's not interested, you know where you stand.

    About the whole rebound thing, force things to a slow pace if you feel it going that way.


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