long time but want closure

tonyheaney

Hi I have used this as an answer in a previous post but thought I’d use it as a new question.

I went to <SNIP> School when I was 15 and I’m now 33. The school principal then wasn't the best to put it lightly. I was not much of a mixer in those days but I had some friends. there was a group who did stuff out the back like sniffing typix (the white stuff used to correct pen mistakes) I was asked to try it and I said no walked away and because I refused to destroy my brain I was treated badly.

I reported it to a couple of teachers but nothing ever came of it, I didn't tell them about the lads sniffing just that they were constantly beating on me but unfortunately it would seem that they thought id ratted them out for using drugs.

I was subsequently brought to the office and asked to explain why I have scraped several cars with a sharp rock. (I did not do this I was set up) but even though I was asked to write out in several pages what I think happened I was still blamed and told I was suspended from the school forever.

To make matters worse a few years later I returned to the school to find out if I could somehow get in to nursing and what I would have to do to do this. This is my answer of which I got.

Heaney leave this building, you will not and never will be a nurse as you are a waste of space.

the school system has several grads of classes where the more clever students are and the now so clever students are well I was in the class with the less off students are and I guess they didn’t think very highly of people like me.

Has anyone ever had any similar stuff happen? Can I do something?

LighterGuy

Well it was 18 years ago, op.
Obviously what you went through was not on. The school's staff sounds like they are a shower of wan*ers.


I myself was expelled at 14 from one school. I was a shy quiet kid. Not scum. The principal was a terrible man. Not just my own opinion. An opinion shared by many parents of other teenagers in the school (all high and mighty type :rolleyes:) I was expelled over a trival reason. Not wanting to hand over my journal to be wrote in because I felt it wasnt deserved. Obviously being older now I realise that was too harsh. Kids who destroyed the place still didnt get expelled.

But thats life op.
What happened when I was 14 in one school doesnt matter now does it?
Sure, that set me back. But I am the man who I am today for various other reasons than that. Of course if I saw the princible today I would be thinking in my mind how I would love to give him a punch. He would deserve it. (Of course the following bit would be "handcuffs" for me :rolleyes:)

Going back to our pasts to get vengence or even closure doesnt change a thing to who we are today.
You went through something terrible as a teenager. But that justs another testement to the fact you can meet alot of wan*ers in life.

claireeney

I dont think there's anything that can be done. I had a few run ins with teachers and principals in school (around 10-12 years ago) but nothing as harsh as being expelled or suspended. we didnt even have detention until the later years. but the teachers were the thickest shower i ever met. basically as a whole they told me i wouldnt pass my leaving cert never mind get into college. I have finished college now and whenever i meet the teachers they seem to think that saying that to me back then got me where i am today. they couldnt be further from the truth. the fact that they were rubbish teachers didnt have anything to do with me getting on well in college except that i could appreciate good teaching after that. my younger brothers had the same things happen them in the same school with the same teachers. it was bullying to be honest. made us feel like crap and i dont think ill ever let it go. :mad:

anyways, im ranting, but i know how you feel on some level. I have no idea how to deal with it though.