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  • 01-11-2010 3:20pm
    #1
    Guest20
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3 ✭


    I am really in a bad way & need advice
    I have been seeing someone I know I shouldn’t have been seeing – this has been going on for just under 10 years approx – on and off more off than on – I have had other relationships in between - he was married with 4 children and I have one - I am not married – there is 13 years between us – he recently got separated and moved out – we spend a lot of time together now – we get on brilliantly – I love being in his company – am I fooling myself or am I wasting my time – at moment I feel horrible – a failure – guilty - loosing my confidence and have no will to do anything – just want to go to bed and not get up - its always after having spent time with him that I feel this way


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi OP.

    Im sorry, but I dont understand why you feel so bad? You say `we spend a lot of time together now – we get on brilliantly – I love being in his company`. Why does this make you feel bad? Is it that you feel responsible for his marriage breaking up or does he say or do things that get to you?

    I would think there has to be something between you if you have been seeing each other for that long. But it was never enough for him to leave his marriage before, and if things were very unhappy there for the last while he will probably want to be free now and not tie himself down.

    Hard to tell if this will change in the future, but circumstances were always against you before. Depends on the two of you really.

    So, why are you feeling so bad???


  • #3
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    Did he leave his wife specifically to be with you? Or did he just leave his wife and you are hoping that the extra bit of time he can spend with you now is indicative of it leading to more?


  • #4
    Guest20
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3 ✭Guest20


    I would think the reason I am feeling so bad is because I feel I am letting friends and family down by being with this man I have not told my daughter about him I dont go out where we are from with him, we always go away


  • #5
    Guest20
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3 ✭Guest20


    No he didnt leave his wife to be with me but of course I wouldnt have helped matters - we have been back in contact about a year now but he had agreed with his wife to move out during this year as there was no getting back together with them they had tried to work things out but they didnt work


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