Just made a fool of myself!!!

LegacyUser

Hi Guys,

Aaahhh...I'm just sitting here cringing at myself!

There is a guy at work who I really really fancy. Trouble is we work in different areas so I have no reason to talk to him. I know his name and that's about it but I think he's stunning.
He's only gonna be in the company until Christmas and then he'll be gone. I'd love to ask him out or something but he may have a girlfriend and I have no idea how I'd approach it even. Very frustrating!!

Anyway, my boss just asked me to ask this guy something. He has his own office. As I walked towards his office my heart was pounding. I opened the door and he looked up and smiled. I asked him the question and as he answered I blushed so hard that my face was on fire!! It was actually hot to touch. My hands went all clammy and my ears started ringing!! I couldn't even concentrate on what he was saying cause all I could think was...oh my god....you're so beautiful....oh god...get a grip...stop blushing....ahhhhhh

I am so mortified! I feel like a teenager (I'm 29...cringe).
Seriously made a fool of myself. He definitely knows that I fancy him now. God, this is so frustrating:(

Do you think he'll think I'm a sap now?
Also, is there any way I can ask him out now?
Aahhh...my face is still burning and this happened about 20 minutes ago!!!

S23

Do you know anything about this lad? Presumably this is the first time you've spoken?

He could be married for all you know or be in a LTR or be even be gay!

Anyway, you blushing doesn't mean you can't ask him out. I'd try and find a bit more out about him first if possible.

Also, while I'm sure he's quite the stunner, I think you might be projecting quite a bit onto him to have that kind of reaction by just talking to him once. While I know crushes etc... do funny things to us I wouldn't think it's normal to lose to plot to that extent with a guy you haven't spoken to before.

LegacyUser

S23 wrote: »

Do you know anything about this lad? Presumably this is the first time you've spoken?

He could be married for all you know or be in a LTR or be even be gay!

Anyway, you blushing doesn't mean you can't ask him out. I'd try and find a bit more out about him first if possible.

Also, while I'm sure he's quite the stunner, I think you might be projecting quite a bit onto him to have that kind of reaction by just talking to him once. While I know crushes etc... do funny things to us I wouldn't think it's normal to lose to plot to that extent with a guy you haven't spoken to before.

Em..I didn't 'lose the plot' and I am perfectly normal. Your reply is really catty to be honest.
I've just come out of an 8 year relationship recently and this is the first guy I've fancied since. I know he could be married or gay as you so helpfully pointed out but I have no way of knowing apart froma sking him out. If he's taken he will say no thanks, I have a girlfriend.
He's not on facebook so I have no way of finding these things out. We don't work in teh same department. I have no reason to engage with him.

nickobrien1986

Do guys care if women are saps? Answer is no.
Basically men are looking for a pretty girl, who's sound and not a knob.

Try do some homework on him. I'm guessing you'll have some mutual mates who can secretly find out if he's single or not.

Anyway if you want to ask him, just do it, don't stall around. If you do you might meet him in town some night with his new girlfriend.

LegacyUser

nickobrien1986 wrote: »

Do guys care if women are saps? Answer is no.
Basically men are looking for a pretty girl, who's sound and not a knob.

Try do some homework on him. I'm guessing you'll have some mutual mates who can secretly find out if he's single or not.

Anyway if you want to ask him, just do it, don't stall around. If you do you might meet him in town some night with his new girlfriend.

I have no way of finding out anything about him! He works in my office 1 day a week and is only contracted till Christmas then he'll be gone.

I've googled his name and nothing comes up. He's not on facebook.
We don't work in the same area so I have no reason to talk to him!

Also, do men find women asking them out desperate?
I really want him:(

moco

blushmush wrote: »

I have no way of finding out anything about him! He works in my office 1 day a week and is only contracted till Christmas then he'll be gone.

I've googled his name and nothing comes up. He's not on facebook.
We don't work in the same area so I have no reason to talk to him!

Also, do men find women asking them out desperate?
I really want him:(

Maybe wait til he's just about to leave then ask him out. At least if he says no you won't have to see him again.:o

If he says yes you'll have no awkwardness of going out with a workmate

Big Bag of Chips

Are there are few of you who might go out on a Friday after work? Why not send around a general email - "hi everyone.. anyone fancy a few after work on Friday/Thursday/Monday..." whatever day he's going to be in.

Make it a group thing, invite him along - and get to know him that way. If he's only there 1 day a week, he probably hasn't really gotten to know too many people, and might like the chance.

It's what I'd do, if I was interested in someone!

S23

blushmush wrote: »

Em..I didn't 'lose the plot' and I am perfectly normal. Your reply is really catty to be honest.
I've just come out of an 8 year relationship recently and this is the first guy I've fancied since. I know he could be married or gay as you so helpfully pointed out but I have no way of knowing apart froma sking him out. If he's taken he will say no thanks, I have a girlfriend.
He's not on facebook so I have no way of finding these things out. We don't work in teh same department. I have no reason to engage with him.

if it came across that way sorry. I was merely suggesting you try find out a bit more about him but you say you can't.

But IMO you did lose the plot

"I asked him the question and as he answered I blushed so hard that my face was on fire!! It was actually hot to touch. My hands went all clammy and my ears started ringing!! I couldn't even concentrate on what he was saying cause all I could think was...oh my god....you're so beautiful....oh god...get a grip...stop blushing....ahhhhhh"

Blush so much your face was hot to the touch. Hands going clammy. Ears ringing. Couldn't concentrate. Sorry that qualifies as over the top to me. Maybe the fact you're on the rebound from an 8 year relationship has something to do with it though.

If you know you can't find out anything about him unless you ask him then I suggest thats what you do. If he likes you then you'll find out quickly enough.

LegacyUser

Big Bag of Chips wrote: »

Are there are few of you who might go out on a Friday after work? Why not send around a general email - "hi everyone.. anyone fancy a few after work on Friday/Thursday/Monday..." whatever day he's going to be in.

Make it a group thing, invite him along - and get to know him that way. If he's only there 1 day a week, he probably hasn't really gotten to know too many people, and might like the chance.

It's what I'd do, if I was interested in someone!

That's good advice but I don't even know his email address as he's a contractor.
All I know is his name and that I fancy the a** offa him!!

King John V

blushmush wrote: »

Also, do men find women asking them out desperate?
I really want him:(

I can only talk for myself, but definitely not. It's flattering, and the fact that the girl likes me enough to overcome shyness/rejection anxiety means a lot too.

Would it be an idea to drop in and say 'hello' the next time you're passing his office? It may only involve 'how are you, how was your weekend etc?' but by listening (and with a few encounters) you can learn a lot about a person's character and whether they're in relationships etc.

Little Miss Lady

He's there until Christmas - great!
You can ask him to the Christmas party or make sure he gets an invite if he works in your office one day a week atleast he has some link to your work so an invite isn't so obvious..
You can then suss him out at the party after a few drinks and see firstly what he's actually like to have a conversation with and then see is it worth your while asking if he's single or taken..
You're 29 so you're old enough now to get over any embarrassment that might occur

Best of luck op

Neyite

years ago i worked in a shop with a cute regular customer. one day the girls started ribbing me so by the time he came up to my till i was crimson. then it happened every time he came in, purely by association. i wouldnt mind if i fancied the arse off him, but i just thought he was vaguely cute. it was very weird. anyway, i got some of the green primer you put under your foundation and wore that to work for a bit. then even when i felt myself go pink, i told myself he couldnt see it anyway, so broke the association between him and blushing. might work for you.

i cant really think of any more tips on how to ask him out that the other posters havent suggested

Boskowski

blushmush wrote: »

I Also, do men find women asking them out desperate?
I really want him:(

no we don't. We're pretty normal just like yourselves worst case well be flattered but nothing will come out of it.